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does anybody know any great sites similar to "apartment therapy"? I am redecorating my 4 year old daughters room and need some good trendy inspiration.Not tacky.

Do you need permission to have a therapy dog in your apartment? My daughter is physically and mentally disabled and we're considering getting on a waiting list for a therapy dog. We are renters, though...can landlords say NO to a special services dog?

Will apartment managers let you run a massage therapy business out of an apartment? Me and my business partners thought it would be a really good idea to move out of where we live now and get two apartments one to work in and the other one to live in. We're getting out of school soon and she already has all the business paper-work. We will be doing NO happy endings or anything sexual like that. Will apartment managers let us even do this if I call ask if they have 2 apartments and what were trying to do.

Do apartments that only allow cats have to let you get one for therapy reasons? My apartment complex only allows cats, but if I got a dog for therapy reasons, would they have to let me keep it? Also, I HATE cats. I am not going to get one. And I want to get a puppy. So it wouldn't be trained. But I have MDD (major depressive disorder) and I'm happier around puppies and I am way less likely to hurt myself if I am aorpund one or have one

Do I have to pay a pet deposit at an apartment complex if I have a workng dog? I have a therapy dog and my apartment complex requires a pet dep. She is a german shepherd, and they do not allow German shepherds on the property unless of course it is a working dog and I have the appropriate documents to prove that! But someone told me that it has to do with fair housing laws or something like that. Since I have to have her why should I have to pay a pet dep.?? Thanks

The apartment I live in has a balcony apartment below it. The tentent holds therapy sessions on the balcony? I can hear every word of their conversations. It's driving me crazy? I asked her to stop, she won't....what should I do?

Will my apartment allow me to have this dog for therapy? My appartment allows their tenants to have dogs. We currently have one chiuaha so we arent allowed to have any more. "the rules are one dog per house". But that dog is my aunts dog who moved from somewhere else with it so we asked my apartment manager if they would allow us to have one more that would be mine. They said that was fine as long as a doctor said that I needed one which he did. So I have been looking for a dog and have decided on getting a AKC registered rottweiler from this lady who breeds them. This is the only dog we have been able to find in our price range. Which is rare since we are on a fixed income since my mom got into an accident. We choose to look into getting a rottweiler since we have had one before and we think that they are very good companions. The problem is our apartment has a 50 lb weight limit. My manager said that she doesnt know if they will make an exception for a depression therapy dog so she said that she will call me back. I dont know how good our chances are of this but I hope they are somewhat good. Please just give me an answer as to what it will be and if there is anything I can do to get them to allow it. Thank you so much. Someone on the third floor had a pitbull so idk if that helps. We dont adopt since that costs more than what it would be from this breeder. AND before you say something against that we choose the breeder since its AKC registered. And dont tell me how bad rottweilers are or that they can turn vicious. NO BREED IS VICIOUS ITS HOW THEYRE BROUGHT UP AND RAISED WHICH MAKES A DOG.

What's the best apartment in St. Louis near the Wash U Physical Therapy school?

my apartment wont let me keep my dog how to i make my pet a therapy dog?

How do I get a good loan to pay rent on an apartment? I am a freshman in college that does not have to pay for tuition at my college. I want to live in an apartment next year, but probably will not have enough money to pay my half of the rent. I am also planning on attending graduate school for physical therapy, which I will be in debt for. Is it wise to get a loan on an apartment since I won't have any undergrad debt, and if so who is the best company to get a loan from?

I am looking for an Australian Shepherd that will have the temperament to be a therapy dog!? I can't have the dog for a few months, until summer, when I can get into my apartment. I prefer to have a puppy so that training will just be mixed in with the usual training and also because I miss having a puppy around. I don't have any other pets with me right now. I am extremely passonate about therapy work and I can't wait to get into it. I need suggestions of breeders that will have litters around late summer to early or mid fall. I would love to have an aussie but other suggestions are welcome as well. I have done research and I have been working with about 75 different breeds in the last year so I know the grooming and things that go with most breeds. I also have friends that are trainers and do the temperment testing.

Will my disabled daughter's SSI change since I moved away from family into an apartment? I was living with my family -- now my daughter and I are living in our own apartment. I was/am counting on her SSI to pay for the rent until I can find a job. I am going to school, giving her daily, continual speech therapy - no child support and I really need the SSI to increase. When I reported the move to Social Security, they did not tell me if there would be a change - or what it will be. All suggestions/information appreciated.

Getting a therapy cat --- how do I get my apartment to allow it? I'm planning on getting a therapy cat in the next little while (or, rather, a kitten who I will be training to be a therapy cat; she's already got the temperament for one). I have anxiety, an extremely low stress threshold, and suffer panic attacks; both my parents and psychiatrist have recommended a cat to help alleviate this, as I've had extremely good experiences with cats relieving stress/anxiety in the past. However, I'm headed to college in a few months, and none of the college-approved housing (which students are required to live in; it's a private university) allows pets unless they are documented service animals. As far as I can tell, federal law does not count therapy animals as service animals. Does anyone know of any certification programs, obscure laws, brilliant arguments, or necessary documents to prove that this animal is indeed a service animal and not just a pet?

What are the requirements for massage therapy in Puerto Rico? I am a black female moving from the U.S to San Juan, Puerto Rico to persue my career in massage therapy. I need to know the requirements and pay for massage therapist in Puerto Rico. I am also looking for a houses or apartments that are furnished with uilities included. What would be good web sites to research that?

what is the oregon state definition of an aid animal? does therapy for post traumatic stress disorder count? My husband is currently reciving treatment for post-traumatic stress from being overseas with the army. His therapist told him to play with our dog, as it is a good stress-reliever. Since our dog is a grouchy old fella we got a kitten to love. Now our apartment manager tells us we cannot have a pet under 1 year old unless it is an "aid animal". Since the kitten is part of his therapy, does it count? I know he would be very upset to have to get rid of his kitty.

Where would be a good place to hang a massage therapy flier? My friend is a massage therapist and in order to get her business out there, we made fliers. Now, we cannot seem to think of places to hang them. We put some up at local nursing homes, bc lets face it, we cna's need our massages. I put some up at apartment complexes.... and one at a gym. Now we cant think of any other places to hang them. Any Suggestions?

Why can't a person use oxygen if they live in a basement apartment? My newest client is supposed to be on oxygen therapy but because she lives in a basement she can't use it. So she has to find another place to live. I'm just wondering why the basement is an issue.

Therapy dog apartments?? help please!? I'm getting my dog ready to certify him to be a therapy dog. I'm wondering would they be allowed into an apartment even if no pets are allowed? Or is that just service dogs? Also my mom has an emotional support dog, could she bring her dog into the apartment without saying it's a pet?

Does anyone have a creative idea on how to break a my apartment lease? My daughter's therapy has caused myself a huge financial burden ..I guess just like most of America, I can't afford my rent anymore. I do not have a buyout clause. Please if you have a creative way to break a lease...leave me an answer.

New apartment complex doesn't allow "viscous breeds." Help!? I'm about to be moving to Tyler, TX and will be moving into an apartment. My problem is that I have two dogs...pit bulls to be exact and all decent apartments and property managment companies say no pit bulls, rotweillers, dobermans, etc. I thought maybe it was a city ordinance and checked into it; however, it is not. These animals are not mean. Infact they are nothing, but the biggest babies and are probably treated better than some children. Sarge, my male, has passed numerous obedience test and is a certified therapy dog. We go visit nursing homes and hospitals with him. My other dog, Dixie, is in training to become a therapy dog also! Despite all there certifications and my dogs great temperment sall property managments companies say no. Has anyone ever been in this situation and does anyone have any advice to how I may sway managment to allow me to keep Dixie and Sarge? I'm renting because I will only be in Tyler for about a year. I own a home in my current location and will be moving back after the year is over. To PSF11: You should also do your research before putting down pit bulls or any other breed that ignorant uninformed people call viscous or dangerous. Did you know Pit bulls were rescue dogs after 9/11? Did you know they are a promininet breed in therapy because of their sweet dispostion and willingness to learn and obey thier owner/handler? I promise if you treated a Golden Retreiver the way some ignorant uneducated people unfortanetly treat their pitts, rotts, and dobermans, the Golden Retriever would act just like these abused animials you classify my dogs with. How would you act if someone beat you all the time, didn't feed you adequatly, left you on a chain your entire life, never gave you proper attention, and fed you gunpowder to make you crazy? I doubt you would have a very good temperment or personality either!

How can I make low-cost typography art? I love the Bryan Adams quote on canvas posted on the Frugal Girl website (via Apartment Therapy): http://frugaldesigngirl.com/category/cool-finds/ ...and would like to make my own art, low-cost, that is more personal. Any ideas? If you have other personal favorites, great art ideas to make, please share!

Unlicensed Therapy? I read an article about a guy who would do unlicensed therapy in his apartment. basically would just let people come and talk about their problems for 20$ per half hour. I was wondering if this is actually legal.

What's the name of dining table & its designer in Jennifer Aniston's loft in "He's Just Not That Into You?"? The piece looks mid century modern, but I cannot seem to find it anywhere. Any information would be helpful...thanks! Here's a (very bad) picture of table from the website apartment therapy. It's the picture with Jennifer Aniston standing in front of the table (4th one down, I think): http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/la/look/on-the-set-hes-just-not-that-into-you-086512

How do I afford and apartment? I am currently living with my husband, but I want to leave him because he is an asshole and I only have a part- time job making $8 an hour and I go to school full-time. I have no idea how I could afford an apartment with my income. I just got into the Respiratory Therapy program so I can't mess that up. Also we have 2 kids and live in a small town. Please help with some useful info.

Therapy Pets? I am getting an apartment with two friends next year and we want to get a cat. Pets aren't allowed, but we visited one apartment where a girl had a therapy guinea pig. Apparently it calms her down and there is special paperwork or something. This is okay with landlords because it is comparable to like a seeing eye dog... (at least this is my understanding) I am curious if anyone knows about this and how to go about getting approved to have a "therapy pet"

How does one qualify for a companion animal if one has long-term GAD and major depressive disorder? ? I would like to have a pet to relieve anxiety and depression and have been advised this is a good form of therapy, but live in an apartment that does not allow pets. I understand that if there is a doctor's order, an exception must be made or it can be considered discrimination based on disability. What is the process to qualify?

Do you ever wonder about the statistics concerning the people surrounding you at the moment? Don't you wonder how many of those people could be pregnant, convicts, adopted, in therapy, in a home/apartment, have traveled outside the US.... I just wonder sometimes. funny, taffie, that you mention emptying bowels and sex, 'cause it's not just normal stuff I think of. It's everything. I'm just nosey with no need to fit in to a statistic, btw.

My Apartment Does Not Allow Dogs? My apartment allowed dogs until prop.8. I just moved in, a very nice neighbor came over to talk to us. He said if we get a doctor recomendation for therapy dogs we might be able to get a dog. But will this work, I dont need a therapy dog but I do want a dog. Please Help!!!

We are getting a therapy dog for my son with Autism.? My apartment does not normally allow animals and we have not gotten the dog yet. I am trying to find out what I need in writing for them before I get the dog so that way we are allowed to have her. Any help would be fabulous! Honest answers only. Thanks

how do i get my cat to be a therapy pet for myself.? I have a cat and its my baby. I moving in to an apartments that does not allow pets, but to lower my stress and calm me so that my stomach ulcer does not flare i like to keep her around so how do i get her certified so that i can keep her?

Can anyone help me find the furniture in this picture? [Edward Cullen's room]? I wanted to re-create Edward Cullen's room from Twilight. I've checked Apartment Therapy but they do not state other multiple items I want. Specifically the cream armchair with all the books on it. Here is the link for anyone who wants to help. http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/chicago/inspiration/twilight-inspiration-edward-cullens-bedroom-design-070384 Any help is appreciated.

How to write a disability accommendation letter to Housing Authority? I'm disable, I neeed to write a letter requsting to live in the city and apartment I am in because I am close to my doctor, hospital, therapy, drug store, kids close to school. I have a bone disease that have affect every joint on my body. I have had 6 surgery and 4 more to go. Moving at this point and time is unacceptable. I just can not do; It a hardship on my family. thanks for your help Sunshine

What is the name of this SNL character? She is on the new ones and she goes to public meetings like one at an apartment building or court appointed therapy and continuously tops people. What is the name of the character?

How can I get help in finding a job/getting money if I have severe Social Phobia/Anxiety? I have been diagnosed with severe social phobia and social anxiety. I have been off medication and therapy for about three months now, but it started getting worse right after it started getting better. Now I can't physically, emotionally, or mentally hold a full-time job, which is the amount of money I need to keep my apartment. Is there anything out there that will help me find a full-time job I can handle or at least get me some kind of disability money so that I could work part-time until I am able to work full-time?

NEW YORK STATE APARTMENT RENTAL LAWS? I live in an apartment where I am entitled to a therapy animal (which I am getting in a few months). I have a chance to foster a dog and want to know under a no-pet clause, but I qualify for a therapy animals, can I foster a pet, since it would not be a pet I own? I know this is confusing, but I need a clear answer. My own pet under FHA, but want to foster an animal. I am aware this is confusing. I am getting a therapy cat (already cleared from doctor and NYS Fair Housing Law. I want to know, other than my therapy cat, can I foster a dog with a no pet clause? A foster animal is not a owned pet, it is a temporary animal living in your house receiving therapy, socialization, medical care.

What can you do if there people giving a wrong portrayal about you to others,& your worried about how others? are perceiving you? your worried people could be alienating you? ostracizing you because of how your being perceived or portrayed to them by others. what can you do? ive had bpd for a long time, and dealt with anger and rage for a long time to because a traumatic, bullying, victimised past. im doing better controling my rage now, although i still have the feelings. i used to have rage outbursts and rage attacks which iam not proud of, mostly in public where people would laugh at me, or it would cause me to be attacked. my goals and dreams are to overcome this disorder and find happiness. emigrate far from britain and build a new life, find friends, a job, security, love, acceptance a fiance. these are all the things ive never hd in life because of my disorder and trauma. however today, i live alone in an apartment, ive got no friends, im on welfare, waiting to be assesed for therapy. and i feel as though everyone has ostracized me & perceives me as a psychopath somebody not to associate with. and i feel angry, upset, confused that i might be viewed this way....or others are portraying me that way to others. i feel people are holding my troubled past against me and my characters been rubbished. am i ruined now? what could i do now?

What can my landlord do if use my security deposit for last months rent? I am leaving my apartment in about 10 days, and I recieved a text message from my landlord asking if i am going to put augusts rent in the box. I told him to use my security deposit because I have no money as I already put a deposit on another place. The history with the LL is that I fell and injured myself on his deck - required surgery and i am still going to physical therapy for rehab. He doesnt maintain the property at all, he only comes around when the checks are to be picked up. Asked him several times to come and fix things and he never does. Although these are not the direct reasons i am not paying this months rent, but instead using my security deposit, what else can I do? I have no money to give him. I am also sueing my landlord for negligance etc. I told him I was doing that about 3 weeks ago, but my lawyer is still working on getting the paperword done, so i think my LL thought i was bluffing. Well I dont get paid for another 10 days, so I cant pay anything until then. I have asked him if I can pay him the rent when I get paid, the day that I move out. He can then do a walk through of the place and return my deposit. I have been a paying tenant of the property for 2 yrs. He sent me a text message a week ago asking if i was going to resign the lease, told him no.

How has your doctor/therapist treated your agoraphobia? My therapist suggested today that I might be agoraphobic, mainly because I have trouble leaving and staying away from my apartment and feel very uncomfortable outside of the safety of familiar places and faces. (I won't go into details.) I am wondering what kind of therapy other agoraphobics have received. I am in traditional psychotherapy now, but think I might benefit better from cognitive behavioral therapy, both for this and my OCD/depression.

Is there an easier way to move out of an abusive household? I'm 21 and live with an emotionally, verbally, and financially abusive relative. Therapy/confrontations/all else have failed. I need to move asap before the situation becomes any more unstable and I completely snap. Problem is, I have nearly no money at the moment. I lost a lot in a fire several months ago, had to move back, and somehow fell into the trap of allowing this person to control me again. I need to move out, soon... but how? My friends are too far away to stay with, so that's out. I could get a well-paying IT job, like I had before the fire, if I could only find an apartment to commute from to go to work, and make money, and pay rent, but I simply can't do it from my current location. Is there a service that could help me? The thought of social workers observing my household terrifies me, because of the backlash I'd get from my relative. I don't have any other relatives I could live with. If I could get a well-paying job, should I take out a loan for initial rent? Help!

What do you do when you feel you are trapped and not going anywhere in life? i desperatly want to emigrate from britain and build a new life, get friends, a partner, get into employment, and just basically achieve happiness and security. but i feel ill never accomplish these goals and iam stuck here. im in a one bedroom apartment on welfare benifits, i have bpd, im trying to get some therapy, i reside in britain, but was born in france, iam from se france, i came here at 7. ive never been employed due to my problems, i have alot to get through, and i feel to overwhelmed by it. im worried ill be stuck here in britain, in these circumstances forever and i wont no how to get out, or ill be stopped from leaving. i'll be shackled here. iam stuck here forever until i die. ill never get away, never discover the world, ill never meet new people..never have happiness, never find a partner....ill never emigrate like i so dearly want to...it'll never happen...none of it. the walls of this apartment are closing in,like a b horror movie. please can anyone help? iam 30 now, dealing with bpd, isolated and living alone...having survived a traumatic life. i feel people have alienated me, and my life will never work out, things are working against me and ill never leave here

Are there exceptions to Pitbulls, Staffordshires, and Dogos in Apartments? My pitbull is in training to be a Canine Good Citizen and then a Therapy Dog. I was curious that if an apartment complex has restrictions on the breed, then it would be allowed if it was registered as a therapy dog. Any one know?

how does radiation affect a pregnant woman? my boyfriend's mom just had radiation therapy, so he has to stay away from her. the thing is they live in a small apartment so is he exposed to the radiation? and does that affect me if he comes to see me? i am 30 weeks pregnant. i really need to know. i'm dying to know! i'm so nervous!

Were 19, couples therapy? We've been together for 2 1/2 years and my boyfriend lives an hour and a half away and its been rough but we get through it. He's moving near me because my dads going to get him started with an apartment so he can live closer. My mom and I both think we should go to a session of couples therapy just to help a little because we really want this to work out. Are we too young? My boyfriend has had a rough life because both of his parents passed and he's fine with us going to therapy together.

Are there any colleges in UK where you can stay in halls? I live in east yorkshire and would love to study my course (beauty therapy) at college somewhere different such as london. But being only 16 i will not be able to move down there and rent an apartment etc. So i was just wondering if there was any colleges that can offer me a place to live, such as University and halls. Thanks .x.

What else can I do to make my friend feel better? Her parent's are splitting up. She and I are 13(We're only a few hours apart. =D). She lives 5 hours away, and I am going to see here over fall break. While we're there(Wartburg,TN) what can I do to help comfort her? Her and her mom are moving a half an hour away to Oak Ridge to live in an apartment. She and I both suffer from depression, but between us both, I'm the only one on medication and in therapy.

How should you react if you knew there were people ostracizing you, telling others to stay away or not? associate with you? i have BPD that ive had long term, im 30 years old, ive endured alot of trauma and abuse in my life.....ive never been employed in my life....never made any friends....never had a significant other. i live alone in my one bedroom apartment, waiting for an assesment for therapy. my ultimate goal is to emigrate from britain, im not happy here, i wasn't born here......i would like to go back to france or over to the u.s. but im so depressed at the moment because i cant see how ill fullfill this dream with the immensley difficult circumstances i feel stuck in. i do NOT want to stay in britain. DO NOT. iam concerned as recentley ive lost a couple of online friends, which are important to me as i have no one else....ive only made a handful of friends online..2 very close ones...ive not heard from them in a while...& the other two just stopped getting in contact..stopped iming me on yahho messenger..when they told me theyd be there for me and be a friend to me there all from the states...being rejected by these 2 friends has really hurt and confused me...why they have just stopped talking to me and being there. its got me thinking that its some sort of a conspiracy, that they were told not to talk or associate with me anymore....and im feeling really depressed about it. has anyone got any ideas why this has happened to me, and what the way forward is in general with my question?

How do I go about getting a therapy pet? I have a 4 year old with autism and his dr. suggested getting him a cat (which he loves) as a therapy pet for sensory issues plus they tend to calm him down. My apartment building doesn't allow pets unless they are service/therapy animals. How do I go about getting a therapy cat?

Pet Therapy? I have heard about "pet therapy" from two or three different sources lately, as a method to ease stress and minor depression. I'm very curious to know more about how this works, maybe from someone who's been through it, and also, how do I begin the process? How do I approach my doctor with my interest? And how do I approach my landlord, if my doctor is willing to try it (since I am in an apartment building)? Thanks so much to those who tried to help, but I was kinda hoping to hear from someone who's been through the experience and would be able to advise me on how to get the ball rolling ...

should i accept the group therapy they might offer or insist on individual psychotherapy ? because obviously i have complex issues dont i ? heres what happened the other day at therapy assessment and circumstances for me in general : ive been waiting months for therapy, ive had a tragic horrific life so far - im 30 now - i have borderline poersonality disorder and ptsd.. my life has been one long tradgedy so far . earlier this morning i went for my therapy assesment where they asked me a group of questions about my life so far. ive been told in general that the correct therapy for bpd is dialectal behaviour therapy .... however at this stage dr andrew told me its not certain whether their psychotherapy centre can help me yet.....its just an assesment. and that they can only offer group therapy - what the hell ? can anyone advise what to do here, because where i live, this is the only therapy unit available.... and i thought i might get dbt or individual psychotherapy. i really battle with my disorder and rage and feeling alienated from society and just want to move ahead with my life........ive already missed out a great deal in life.. so what do i do, do i take their therapy if they offer it me ? im so annoyed - plus heres my circumstances in general : i exist alone, living in a one bedroom flat on disability benefits in england- i feel ostracised and alienated from society. i have no one except an aging mother whos always stood by me and done her best for me, shes 58 now and cant get up to see me like she once did. i have alot of aggression problems that ive improved with all by myself over the years.....i used to have rage outbursts in public that i didnt plan, but comes from years of severe bullying. ive basically had a horrifically hard life, missed out on forming ' any ' relationships with anyone........ missed out on ever being employed or gaining any qualifications.........missed out on an education.. im extremely lonely, abandoned....forgotten about by society......i sit in my apartment every night and no one seeks me out, tells me im worth something........its like i dont matter to anyone in society. i feel people are aloof and standoffish to me like they were to me in the past , like no one wants to know me.. i feel stigmatised as somebody to avoid because of my criminal mental past and rage problems.... no one to phone....no one to phone me.....no one to turn to....a tormented, disadvantaged past.. i feel angry at people with happy lives, jealous, aggressive , it represents everything ive never had.. im 30 now, i own nothing....live on disability.....have a dusty old pathetic computer........no carpets on the floor.....have borderline personality disorder and ptsd. wait for therapy........have torn ankle ligaments an injured ankle.....was told it will take a while to heal. ive aged prematurly in my face.. have physical imperfections : 2 missing teeth - front bottom row- saving for dental treatment- cant afford anything right now. this happened after i headbutted a wall years ago through anger. cracked, broken skin , tears in the skin ' covering ' the ' head ' of my penis, an itchy, smelly sweaty scrotum, im waiting to see a dermatologist, she doesnt know what it is or wether the cracks can be cleared yet. the tears and cracks dont hurt, but the skin is sensitive and looks terrible, all broken cracked skin covering my penis head..plus discoloration of the head part. i know its nothing sexually infection because i was checked out at the clinic months ago.. my little finger is crooked and droops over due to an injury years ago. my only goalsin life is to attain a good paying computer job....to live a peaceful life near the coast........to leave england.......to find a loving partner....to eventually live in spain or another part of europe. but tell me in my position, at 30, starting from zero, how will i do that ? im despairing right now. its like no one cares about me and societies moved on and left me behind. people reject me, especially girls because i have major low self esteem.....i get clingy....expect to much to soon......dont no how to maintain a conversation. theres this rusian girl on my messenger list, ive spoke to twice.....she seems nice.....but im scared to go talk to her again incase she rejects me because of how iam. with all this, and in general ; what am i going to do ? people have treated me aloofly and standoffishly for years now like their conveying the message im below them and that theyre rejecting me.. like theres a STIGMA that follows me around. and im being SOCIALLY EXCLUDED from society. people treat me like a sad charity case and convey i would only be accepted because society would feel soory for me.. i get spoken down to, belittled, condescended....prople....females, shop workers , authority figures are all aloof with me. i have severe low self esteem which means im constantly rejected....i get cling so should i accept their group therapy they might offer once their assesments through or try to insist on individual psychotherapy ? i have borderline personality and ptsd btw

Should i accept the group therapy they might offer or insist on individual psychotherapy ? because obviously i have complex issues dont i ? heres what happened the other day at therapy assessment and circumstances for me in general : ive been waiting months for therapy, ive had a tragic horrific life so far - im 30 now - i have borderline poersonality disorder and ptsd.. my life has been one long tradgedy so far . earlier this morning i went for my therapy assesment where they asked me a group of questions about my life so far. ive been told in general that the correct therapy for bpd is dialectal behaviour therapy .... however at this stage dr andrew told me its not certain whether their psychotherapy centre can help me yet.....its just an assesment. and that they can only offer group therapy - what the hell ? can anyone advise what to do here, because where i live, this is the only therapy unit available.... and i thought i might get dbt or individual psychotherapy. i really battle with my disorder and rage and feeling alienated from society and just want to move ahead with my life........ive already missed out a great deal in life.. so what do i do, do i take their therapy if they offer it me ? im so annoyed - plus heres my circumstances in general : i exist alone, living in a one bedroom flat on disability benefits in england- i feel ostracised and alienated from society. i have no one except an aging mother whos always stood by me and done her best for me, shes 58 now and cant get up to see me like she once did. i have alot of aggression problems that ive improved with all by myself over the years.....i used to have rage outbursts in public that i didnt plan, but comes from years of severe bullying. ive basically had a horrifically hard life, missed out on forming ' any ' relationships with anyone........ missed out on ever being employed or gaining any qualifications.........missed out on an education.. im extremely lonely, abandoned....forgotten about by society......i sit in my apartment every night and no one seeks me out, tells me im worth something........its like i dont matter to anyone in society. i feel people are aloof and standoffish to me like they were to me in the past , like no one wants to know me.. i feel stigmatised as somebody to avoid because of my criminal mental past and rage problems.... no one to phone....no one to phone me.....no one to turn to....a tormented, disadvantaged past.. i feel angry at people with happy lives, jealous, aggressive , it represents everything ive never had.. im 30 now, i own nothing....live on disability.....have a dusty old pathetic computer........no carpets on the floor.....have borderline personality disorder and ptsd. wait for therapy........have torn ankle ligaments an injured ankle.....was told it will take a while to heal. ive aged prematurly in my face.. have physical imperfections : 2 missing teeth - front bottom row- saving for dental treatment- cant afford anything right now. this happened after i headbutted a wall years ago through anger. cracked, broken skin , tears in the skin ' covering ' the ' head ' of my penis, an itchy, smelly sweaty scrotum, im waiting to see a dermatologist, she doesnt know what it is or wether the cracks can be cleared yet. the tears and cracks dont hurt, but the skin is sensitive and looks terrible, all broken cracked skin covering my penis head..plus discoloration of the head part. i know its nothing sexually infection because i was checked out at the clinic months ago.. my little finger is crooked and droops over due to an injury years ago. my only goalsin life is to attain a good paying computer job....to live a peaceful life near the coast........to leave england.......to find a loving partner....to eventually live in spain or another part of europe. but tell me in my position, at 30, starting from zero, how will i do that ? im despairing right now. its like no one cares about me and societies moved on and left me behind. people reject me, especially girls because i have major low self esteem.....i get clingy....expect to much to soon......dont no how to maintain a conversation. theres this rusian girl on my messenger list, ive spoke to twice.....she seems nice.....but im scared to go talk to her again incase she rejects me because of how iam. with all this, and in general ; what am i going to do ? people have treated me aloofly and standoffishly for years now like their conveying the message im below them and that theyre rejecting me.. like theres a STIGMA that follows me around. and im being SOCIALLY EXCLUDED from society. people treat me like a sad charity case and convey i would only be accepted because society would feel soory for me.. i get spoken down to, belittled, condescended....prople....females, shop workers , authority figures are all aloof with me. i have severe low self esteem which means im constantly rejected i worry this is the only type of therapy available in my area - the therapy centre said they dont do individual psychotherapy anymore because of lack of funding.. so i worry i might have a struggle to get individual psychotherapy the NHS is absolute crap and i cant afford to go private . so should i accept their group therapy they might offer once their assesments through or try to insist on individual psychotherapy ? i have borderline personality and ptsd btw

what can you do if there people giving a wrong portrayal about you to others, & your worried about how others? are perceiving you? your worried people could be alienating you? ostracizing you because of how your being perceived or portrayed to them by others. what can you do? ive had bpd for a long time, and dealt with anger and rage for a long time to because a traumatic, bullying, victimised past. im doing better controling my rage now, although i still have the feelings. i used to have rage outbursts and rage attacks which iam not proud of, mostly in public where people would laugh at me, or it would cause me to be attacked. my goals and dreams are to overcome this disorder and find happiness. emigrate far from britain and build a new life, find friends, a job, security, love, acceptance a fiance. these are all the things ive never hd in life because of my disorder and trauma. however today, i live alone in an apartment, ive got no friends, im on welfare, waiting to be assesed for therapy. and i feel as though everyone has ostracized me & perceives me as a psychopath somebody not to associate with. and i feel angry, upset, confused that i might be viewed this way....or others are portraying me that way to others. i feel people are holding my troubled past against me and my characters been rubbished. am i ruined now? what could i do now?

Apartment Manager saying they will not allow my Emotional Support Dog, what can I do? I have suffered from severe anxiety for most of my life. Approx. 5 years ago I finally saw a professional about it and was diagnosed with Panic Disorder and Agoraphobia. I have tried counseling and therapy, with very little luck. In the past month my doctor suggested that I would benefit from having a dog and after thinking about it for a while I decided she was correct and she wrote me a note for my apartments. Well, upon giving a copy of said note to my apartment manager while requesting that I be allowed to have a dog(my apartments do not allow dogs), they got rude and defensive and started talking about lawyers right away. They told me that unless it is a trained service dog it will not be allowed. From research I've done, I understand that according to the Fair Housing Amendments Act, a disabled person with a note from their health care professional, stating that the animal is needed, is allowed to keep an Emotional Support Animal...Is this true? Or is there nothing I can do to be able to keep my Emotional Support Dog?

Depression, Therapy Pets? I have depression pretty bad, it is affecting my weight, and how I interact with my family, friends, and anyone around me. It was not as bad when I had pets, I could always cuddle or interact with them. Now I live in California in an apartment that does not allow animals. It is a very small desolate place that I hate. Is there any way a therapist could perscribe a therapy pet for me? My grandmother has a therapy pet, and no landlords can turn her out because she has special papers from her therapist. Is there any way I could go about getting the same thing?

how should you react if you knew there were people ostracizing you, telling others to stay away or not? associate with you? i have BPD that ive had long term, im 30 years old, ive endured alot of trauma and abuse in my life.....ive never been employed in my life....never made any friends....never had a significant other. i live alone in my one bedroom apartment, waiting for an assesment for therapy. my ultimate goal is to emigrate from britain, im not happy here, i wasn't born here......i would like to go back to france or over to the u.s. but im so depressed at the moment because i cant see how ill fullfill this dream with the immensley difficult circumstances i feel stuck in. i do NOT want to stay in britain. DO NOT. iam concerned as recentley ive lost a couple of online friends, which are important to me as i have no one else....ive only made a hanful of friends online...2 very close ones...ive not heard from them in a while...and the other two just stopped getting in contact..stopped iming me on yahho messenger..when they told me theyd be there for me and be a friend to me there all from the states...being rejected by these 2 friends has really hurt and confused me...why they have just stopped talking to me and being there. its got me thinking that its some sort of a conspiracy, that they were told not to talk or associate with me anymore....and im feeling really depressed about it. has anyone got any ideas why this has happened to me, and what the way forward is in general with my question? i hope someone can answer this. thanks

Are there any inexpensive apartment complexes in the Phoenix/Tempe area without bugs? I was born and raised in Phoenix and I have a phobia of the large sewer roaches, japanese beetle, palmento bugs that are common in the phoenix area. My dad lived in Sun King apartments and it was common to see them on the grounds and he'd get a couple in his apartment every year. Now that I am considering moving back to Phoenix after 7 years in Flagstaff, I am worried. My husband and I will be looking into moving to the Tempe area, since he will be attending ASU. Can anyone recommend any apartment complexes which are relatively inexpensive where I'm less likely to have any problems with my fear? I'm aware I need therapy, but that is not a possibility at this time in my life; it is something I plan to do later. If I see a roach in my apartment I will not be able to sleep there or stay there, so this is a big issue for me. If I see one on a stairwell, I will no longer be able to use that particular stairwell. Any help would be great and please do not mock me. If you've lived in Phoenix, you know that not having food around does not keep them out. Do bugs msteriously know there is no food? No, they come in and check. I can not have this happening.

Please help??Hubby left leaving apartment almost bare?? My husband and i have been married three and half years.Hubby and i had problems we were trying to start a family for two years because hubby had always wanted a son.I am 24 and he is 32 the age difference caused him to treat me as a child on more than one occasion causing fights.Hubby works in Insurance and travels a lot he cheated on me with someone at work.This caused a seperation he went to london for 2 months for work.I was sad and lonley made a bad choice slept with an ex.bf who called to wish me a happy b-day.He got me pregnant . I told my hubby everything before he came home and he said he wanted to still give our marriage another shot.He was supportive and we started attending therapy i thought we were making progress.I came home a week ago to an almost bare apartment and hubby wont answer cell phone?Credit cards were canceled and joint account emptied. He left our bed ,my clothing, curtains, dog, china and some decorations.I have no idea who to call? I am 38 weeks pregnant.

im really angry - i have so many problems - i feel branded/stigmatised forever & im not getting therapy i need? i just read this on a reputable BPD site : '' In general, standard group therapy is not often recommended for those with BPD, unless it is a highly structured environment such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or other groups tailored specifically for Borderline clients. For the Borderline, subjective feelings of worthlessness and the need to compete for caretaker attention can worsen in a group situation; also, some studies have shown that the presence of someone with BPD in a group setting can significantly impact the therapeutic effect for non-BorderlineD participants. A better alternative might be Medication Support Groups. '' from this site ; http://www.bpdresources.com/treatment.html and theyve refered me to some group therapy place who assesed and told me i wasnt ready for group therapy right now but refered me to a local resource centre where they do crafts etc , like a drop in to help me integrate better with people.. theyve told me thers no individual one one one psychotherapy in my area. plus heres my situation in general; ive had a very difficult miserable life - missed out on EVERYTHING thus far : relationships, friendships , employment, qualifications etc. suffered severe abuse/ bullying throughout my life, im now 30 years old , i feel ive aged prematurly because of stress , i have a minor criminal record , ( carrying a knife in a rough nieghbourhood, carrying a snooker ball in a sock - assault , kicking someone - ) spent time in a psychiatric hospital for 18 months because i said things to scare psychiatrist because i wasnt recieving help in the community. all that was about 7 years ago, since then ive been from pillar to post, ended up homeless for 9 months. ive made alot of progress from how i once was - i used to have rage outbursts in public and lash out and pick fights with people, due to bottled up anger when i was bullied. in the present im living in a one bedroom apartment in a dreary part of england on sickness disability - iam waiting for group therapy because thers is no individual psychotherapy in my area. i was diagnosed with BPD and post traumatic stress traits. i have physical problems, torn ankle ligaments, i need an operation on my left ankle - cracked skin on my penis, waiting for a 3rd opinion from a dermatologist - im out of shape badly because i have been inactive for so long. my physicality is weak. im so jumbled up an confused because im wondering what to do and in what priority - i have goals in life i want to reach ; i want to emigrate from england to somewhere hot and coastal with a good paid job in IT computers. i definatly want to emigrate inspite of my disadvantages - but im so depressed because im starting from nothing, from scratch virtually. and now im worrying how i will achieve that goal, and what order to do things , like prioritise ? i feel in a rush, im scared it will take too long to achieve my goals as im already an aged 30 , 31 in january. i want to work towards my desired goal and realise there is only me to save ME , but im confused as how to go about things. .... ive lived inside the system all my life have no life skills now iam desperate to stand on my own two feet , achieve my goals - leave britain and go my own way. can someone help ? i fear if iam trapped in britain , i will deffinatly to commit suicide. iam not happy here, its been my childhood ambition to leave , i wanna leave , and that is that. im aware im at big disadvantages but my number 1 goal above anything in this world is to leave britain. i fear ive left it too late to achieve my ambition, ( nearlly 31) and that im to disadvantaged because of my past. im sick of people undermining my goals, pointing out my mistakes, telling me that i have no chance of leaving england , unfortunatly its mostly brits who put me down, tell me its unrealistic, that my past will go against me - like their keeping me prisoner here... but inspite of that i feel falsely imprisoned in the uk anyway, like im being kept here, against my power. i dont want to do one day at a time which is what most say, i literally want to rush off and leave here next week.. i have a sense of feeling trapped here. i dont live in a rough area really but you do see no hopers, alcoholics , groups of teenagers acting hard , white skin heads etc - and thats not what i want to be around. grrrrraaarrrgh !!! ( clenched teeth ) i feel so angry - i have alot of problems - and i cant decide what to do, what to prioritise and which is the best way forward.. im 31 in january, im panicking - ill never achieve my goals.

if you ever lived in an apartment did you ever get complaint about playing loud music , when you never did ? i have bpd and ptsd , ive lived in a one bedroom apartment since 2005 , ive had a very hard life , and this is the safest area ive lived in compared to the dumps of situations ive been in in the past.. im 30 years old, live off disability , im waiting for group therapy and im starting my life from scratch as ive missed out on living and life big time . have a minor criminal record , no work history, been on disability all my life , never studied or got an education , never formed any relationships ever, was bullied throughout secondary school, missed out on all my schooling. i own nothing except an old dusty computer, i have no savings - i still have problems with aggression , anxiety , panic , low self esteem , paranoia. i have alot to work through, ive aged for 30 and look older than i once did. my biggest goal is to leave england move away with a decent paid job, and thats what im trying to work towards. months ago i had a troublesome drunken neighbour who used to try and open my apartment with his key , i made a complaint and it was resolved fortunatly. however he mentioned to the housing manager about me saying '' i could complain about his - ( my ) loud music '' - which i dont believe is to loud. before i spoke to the housing manager about another query and she mentioned what the drunken neighbour had said weeks ago about how he could ' complain about my loud music ' i assured her i didnt have it loud and have never really had any real complaints regarding my music or noise. but she did say just to be ' considerate ' of my music being to loud because the apartment block walls are thin. she said theres no official complaint or that im not in any trouble but just to be considerate. however her saying that made me feel worried and ' insecure ' - how do i handle it ? it made me think of the worst possible thought of being thrown out, that would be the last thing i need.

Until i get proper help and therapy, how do i handle my obsessions & obsessive worries? at the moment im being failed by the mental health services as i have been for 16 years, im now 31. im not getting the treatment program i need or further assessment to test for ptsd, i have bpd , borderline and struggle with many symptoms daily including manic worrying and racing thoughts........scattered jumbled up thoughts.....mind blanks out....forget things, cant hold a train of thought well..............have obsessive worries everyday. one particular obsession is the fact i live on disability in a one bedroom apartment on the 3rd floor owning little material possessions. never had an opportunity to be employed ever because of hard life misfortunes. for years ive been obsessing about hoarding material possessions , even though i dont have much. i have a custom made old computer, a few books, a playstation 2, old dvds that are scratched, a few games for playstation.... recently ive ordered clothing items off ebay......and i have a problem where the product has to be perfect , and i scrutinise things to see if its tampered with or not perfect.........ie : if a bit of stitching is loose or the fabric has a small hole in it. and if i find an imperfection, i obsess and worry that somebody has tampered with it on purpose.....so that i have nothing nice and in good condition..........to ensure that i never own nothing perfect or of any worth... if i spot an imperfection, it ruins my day and i think somebodies done it or ruined my merchandise on purpose..............then i will feel depressed like i have NOTHING of value........and have to purchase more material items......so i feel like i ' have something ' this problem has troubled me for a long time, how do i finally beat it ? if the product is imperfect and feel ive been left with nothing, or its been tampered with........i can lose control of rage , become aggressive and snap. until i get the right therapy, because im being failed, how can i manage this particular psychological problem ? i think : if the product is damaged purposefully or unpurposefully , that its taken away the value of the material item. and. if the item is damaged, then my mind thinks i '' have nothing '' i then become depressed insecure and enraged. how do i combat this ?

How should I write a letter to my apartment complex property owners about issues with management team? This is long but I need some help... Last week our property managers left the sprinkler system on and it was below freezing out. I went out to start up my car in the morning before work. I ended up slipping on the completely frozen ground. There was a sheet of ice from about 3 feet from my front door, on the entire sidewalk and in the parking lot. I did not know the sprinkler system was on until after falling and my boyfriend told me he heard it go on early in the morning. When I fell I ended up with a concussion, whiplash a very sore back and tailbone. Not to mention I'm pregnant. I've spoken with a lawyer who said I have a very good case due to the apartment managements' negligence. I do not want to sue though. My boyfriend called and left three messages on the day this happened. None of which were returned. We did however see the maintenance man outside putting down salt after the first message and then after the second message the other maintenance man was outside of our apartment looking around. He was actually down on the ground looking. The next day my boyfriend received a call from the property manager who lied and said she was not informed of the messages until that day. The conversation between the two of them proved that she was unsure of what to do and apologized for the fall. He asked her to call me if she were really sorry and she refused. She said that was not her responsibility, but that she would report the incident. I have not yet heard from the property manager or the owners of the property. I'm very upset that I have not received an apology for their mistake or have even been asked how I am feeling or if the baby is ok. I want to write a letter telling them I feel they have been very unprofessional and I also want a statement from me on record. I went to both my family dr and obgyn to make sure me and the baby were ok. I now have to go to physical therapy and I'm paying for all this. I was forced to lose 4 days of work and I'm also a student teacher and I had to lose a day for that. How should I explain myself in my letter? I don't want to seem angry or pushy-but I do want to get my point across. I tend to sound mean when upset and want to avoid that. I'd rather make them feel bad for this mistake they've made than to make them mad to the point where they give us a hard time about everything until we move out in June. Thanks!

How to convince my mom I don't need therapy (at least not for this)? I accidentally came out to my mother as asexual. Before that, she thought I was a perfectly normal lesbian (not quite accurate, but whatever). Now, she thinks I need therapy because I have never and probably will never be interested in sex. I don't even want to know what will happen if she finds out that I'm also pretty sure I'm genderqueer. How do I convince my mom I don't need to talk to a therapist about this? I already have a shrink for my other mental problems (AvPD, Bipolar Disorder, anxiety, Asperger Syndrome), but I don't want her to think I'm mentally ill. Also, advice on explaining the I-am-not-a-girl but-I-don't-know-what-I-am? Should I just ride it out? I'm 19 and plan to move into an apartment next summer, so... I don't know.

how do i deal with all my obsessive worries until i can get proper therapy? im 31 and are struggling to get the right treatment, care , meds or further assesments i need right now , so im having to go down other avenues to get the right treatment , im entitled to from the mental health services. i have bpd , which i accept but want to be tested further for PTSD and OCD of which ive had the symptoms for many years now. one of my biggest symptoms is agoraphobia , severe anxiety, panic attacks , having flashbacks , nightmares and obsessive racing thoughts and worries. my thoughts race everyday to where i struggle to focus, forget what i was thinking minutes before - mind blanks out , then i forget everything. its like i have to remember all the racing thoughts and be in control of all the obsessive worries or have '' clarity '' with most of them , or else , my mood plummets into the depths of despair. my thoughts race everyday rapidly, my mind all jumbled with thoughts scattered everywhere........obssesive worries. i live in a 1 bedroom apartment living on disability as i have done 5 years trying to hold my rage feeling together , anxiety and seek the '' right therapy ''. my obssessive racing thoughts which i realise are petty , really worry me and depress me every day......and i keep trying to find ways not to manically worry, but i keep '' failing '' with it. my obssesive racing thoughts are like this : what if the government stops my disability money or reduces it? panic worry. what if the government brings in steps to police and control the internet, banning limewire or banning the downloading of videos and music ? - monitering the internet watching everybodies actions ? panic worry. what if i buy material items from ebay, and their not perfect ? - like a bit of stitching loose or a slight flaw - or a slight discolouration on a garment or imperfection ? would the seller have done it purposefully to personally get at me ? panic worry. note : i have this obsessive problem ive had for years that material items have to be perfect and if their not , it means theyve been damaged on purpose by somebody to ruin my happiness. what if i lose what few material possessions ive got , like my old computer ? or few valuable books and dvds ? what if my apartment is burgled and i lose what few possesions i have , mainly my computer with a lot of things valuable, stored on it ? panic , worry. what if the government shuts down my internet because of the '' big brother '' type way the world is going ? worry worry. until i get the right treatment which ive struggled to get half my life because of the failures of the system............how do i cope with the obsessive worries ? the ones ive written here ?

does anyone think iam getting the fair, right therapy or treatment? ill really try to keep this short. im 31, had a alot of struggles in life and adversity , psychological difficulties , and bullying and victimisation in earlier life. i have also squandered away years, made wrong decision through anger and wrath , been in prison for violence and assaults , carrying knives, been in a mental hospital 11 years back - as a result , i have missed out in life on all the normal things like : - building relationships, being employed , getting qualifications , most things etc. i have made plenty progress for years, without the correct treatment program , just through my own internal will and strength , i live in a one bedroom apartment on sickness disability owning few material possessions. my days are empty lonely, i read creative things, and read about human behavioural psychology which iam very interested it. i do not have the luxury of a social support network because i have never had the opportunity to build one up. my main symptoms i have had for many years are : aggressive outbursts , struggling to control them, racing '' obsessive '' thoughts and worries everyday - severe anxiety and panicky feelings , agoraphobia , afraid to go out, and be around people, flash back to traumatic memories - startled by loud noises , get panic attacks, extreme wrathful feelings , severe anger - persecutory paranoia, people are against me , obsessive worries and thoughts , thoughts feel scattered and jumbled , mind going blank , being depressed because of mind going blank and forgetting what i was obsessively worried about. those are my main symptoms , my diagnosis so far has been through the years : paranoid personality disorder , antisocial personality disorder , bpd , psychopathic personality disorder . - various personality disorders. my psychiatrist is sticking by that opinion , but i feel i have '' co existing '' anxiety disorders and are pursuing another independent opinion to be tested for : ptsd , ocd and G.A.D - general anxiety disorder. i strongly feel i have co existing anxiety disorders , but i agree with my main diagnosis of personality disorders to. - but feel it is important to diagnose the anxiety disorders if i have them. the treatment they are offering me, for now is : graded exposure , to go out with a support worker lady into my local community , to get me integrated and to face my anxieties - they said they do agree i need psychotherapy, but first they want me to try the graded exposure, and also the resources are not around right now for psychotherapy. iam insistent that i need psychotherapy, my psychiatrist has given me an antidepressant which has helped a little , helped a bit slow down the obsessive thoughts and worries, but i still have them. so - after my story , does anyone think iam getting the fair or right therapy ? i also struggle with low self esteem, maintaing relationships , become clingy, act too eager, idolise people then devalue them if i feel let down by them etc. struggle with anger outbursts ,. relationship bounderies. i accept my personality disorder diagnosis but feel i have co existing anxiety disorders.

What should you do if you feel your being deprived of the right help & treatment for your disorder/symptoms? i have bpd, i have bad anxiety and panic which is keeping me a prisoner inside my apartment. im startled by loud noises, am afraid to answer my phone now and scared to open mail. i have panic attacks and feel like i cant breathe everytime i have to leave my apartment. i have inner rage and angry feelings alot. which i feel is a result of a bullying and abusive past. repressed anger or suppressed. im scared to go out to incase i have an anger outburst. i feel threatened when outside, and miss percieve threats to. i cant make eye contact because i feel like im being threatend, intimidated. i have paranoia that ive had years that people are out to get me, ruin every hope and aspect of my life. i have extreme low, bleak moods everyday. where i feel hopeless. my psychiatrist wont perscribe me meds even though ive said i feel like this, because he said they're addictive. theyve refered me for psychotherapy...but i heard i should have DBT dialectal behavioural therapy. i also disocociate, and zone out when i have to go out to. so the question is, what do i do now? how do i get the right help and therapy? what is the right help and therapy? should i accept what they say and go along with the psychotherapy...even though i have these life impairing symptoms? i strongly feel i need meds but i dont no what to do.. i know you cant demand them. please can somebody help

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Want to find a nice cheap apartment in Houston Texas and want it close to Plastic Pak. where can i find one.? i want to make sure i have a garrentee job, when i get that place, i want to know about texas, i never been.i want to also start my career in Massage Therapy, and one day be a flight attendent, want to know how to go about starting and which college is best.

How can I trust them again? I had a very bad experience with some police officers a few years ago, and I'm having a really hard time feeling safe even though I've moved to a different state. I was raped by several men in my own apartment. Afterwards, I had a bit of a memory problem and went about life as usual, like my mind had put it on the back burner for awhile. When I finally decided to deal with it, my husband and I walked into my local police department and told them everything. They separated my husband and myself, and they told him I had willingly had sex with these men. They interrogated me, and told me that they didn't believe a word I was saying, and how dare I try to hurt innocent people. I left the police department, stunned and very scared. They did go talk to the men that had done this, and now I was afraid of retribution. I've since moved to another state, but now I am still very terrified of police. I've had therapy, but at this point I think I need to try something else. Just to clarify: I don't think all police are like this, I just have a sort of fight-or-flight reaction when I see them. I think mainly I'm curious if there are programs where police work directly with citizens or any other ways I can be around police officers in a positive atmosphere and just get to know some that could help me just get used to their presence. Thanks in advance More clarification: I did not 'let' these men into my apartment. They broke in. There was semen evidence on the floor, the men claimed consentual sex. I do not believe that because I had reported late this gave the officers any right to treat me as they did.

seriously what can you do if you feel your being outcasted from the world, others are influencing other? people against you? im 30, have bpd and im very vunerable right now...i just want to overcome this disorder that ive had half my life and achieve happiness....find a loving partner...some good christian friends....i want to emigrate from britain to a hot sunny country, far away...build a new, happy life.....these are my goals. ive missed out so much in life, never had a steady partner, never made any friends, other that online, the internet....never been employed due to my problems and traumatic life....i live alone in a one bedroom apartment, cold and alone......feeling directionless , like my lifes going nowhere. im waiting to be assesed for therapy which is taking its time.....im only just getting help..the system has failed me in the past. and now..i strongly believe i have haters outthere...people who's aim it is to socially ostracize me, influence others against me..cause me to be rejected and hated & im seriously worried about this. i cant fight everyone, what can i do? i just want to be happy, find happiness, find love..overcome all this...find a happy life....emigrate, turn a new leaf....but how can i if people are against me and won't give me a chance??????? a completely irrelevant, rubbish answer infobod, what you think i want an answer like that....give other people that answer...not me, i dont want that.

How to make husband more understanding of 35 year old disabled, depressed son . His father won't go to therapy The disability is invisible to the naked eye and effects breathing, sleep and concentration so my son hasn't worked for a few years. IT was caused by medical negligence. My son was a top achiever and university graduate before he crashed. He's trying ro rehab - but it's slow progress and he becomes vociferous and hard to live with. MY husband tries more than he used to but then ruins everything by a snide remark out of the blue. When my son crashed he was living in my late parents' apartment, but I brought him home as he couldn't look after himself at that time. I should have moved him to an apartment near our home, instead of to our home,but at the time I was afraid of the extra expense. There is a constant battle between them for my attention. I am very aware of that.When I go away they both make more of an effort to get on, but I can't be away all the time.They are very similar and impressive.My son has a phenomenal memory,huge general knowledge and this drives my husband crazy.

what can you do if you feel trapped and stuck in somewhere you don't want to be? i want to emigrate from the uk, build a new life, find good christian friends, find a good fiance who'll like me for me.....i was born in st paul de vence but have been in the uk since 7. i have endure alot of trauma since 14, i have borderline personality disorder, and ptsd.. im waiting for therapy right now, and im being assesed right now. i want an instant fix. to be just able to leave tommorrow. i have awfull feelings of dependancy like ive become reliant on welfare not wanting to do anything. stuck in a rut, in my lonely apartment. i feel stuck in britain right now because im dealing with bpd and can only go as fast as the uk system. i feel trapped here, like i'll never get out, like its impossible to accomplish, and it is depressing me.....because i don't want to be here and want to leave uk today, tommorrow. ive had alot of bad experiences here and made alot of enemies, which suits me, because i dont like them either. but the problem is, now i know i need to get out.

How can I make this work? (re: financial aid)? I am 25 years old with an apartment, van, a lot of bills, and a full time job. I want to start Massage Therapy school next month, which will be $13,000. I qualify for government loans, but they only cover half. I'm a single, straight white adult with no children...if I wasn't single, if I was gay, not white, or had a kid I would qualify for more. But I don't. I don't have to start repaying my government loans until 6 months after I graduate. But I'm going to have to take out a personal loan to cover the rest of school. The problem: I totally can't afford any more monthly bills until I graduate & get a better job! People are telling me that a personal loan means I'll have to start repaying immediately. The reason I'm going back to school to begin with is because I need to have a job that I can earn money to help out with bills. This is going to take another year, & i can't afford any more bills. Does anyone have any suggestions please?! Sunshine_today, since you'd like to know, as I was filling out the forms there were checkboxes by all of those options with fine print that basically read that I could qualify for more money if any apply to me. I hope you're a nicer person in real life, but no, I am not feeling sorry for my "poor white self" as I am trying to better my life. When I start complaining about my life & not actually doing anything to change it, then feel free to use that sarcasm on me.

rss feeds with images? rss feed / rss feed reader that shows feeds without having to visit site?..more detail... what i am trying to do - setup rss feeds from ebay on keywords, from apartment therapy on their posts, put this into one feed, have this feed show pictures, prices, and also embedded links to the pictures. this will be a buying engine for my mom to easily review pictures of items being sold, see prices, and click to something she wants to resell. http://www.ventureblogalist.com/?p=47 any ideas?

I think that my insomnia is a result of my paranoia? I am so paranoid... it stresses me out just thinking about how paranoid I am. I cannot sleep because I have this on-going fear that someone is going to come through my bedroom window, kidnap me, rape me, and brutally murder me. I'm practically TERRIFIED. I'm also scared that I'm going to go blind. The thought of going blind pops up in my head 24/7... I'm afraid of walking outside because I'm scared of getting kidnap, and I hate being home alone. I check locks and windows like 10x and I keep on thinking that I heard someone climbing through my brother's window. I lock myself in my room for the majority of the year. I should add that I went through a traumatic experience when I was nine. I opened my apartment door and these men came in and robbed us, tied my brother in the bathroom and beat him up while me and three other people were hostages in another bathroom for four hours. I think that this is when I started to get paranoid. I can't afford therapy! Should I tell my mother? I'm 17.

Need advice on seeking what was agreed to on divorce papers? I divorced my husband in 2001. He didn't want the divorce. He bragged on his financial statement beccause at the time he was making big money as a painter, but has always only worked sporadically. When my (pro-bono) lawyer saw this, she mentioned "alimony" and he hit the cieling. We agreed that he would pay some credit cared bills I had in lieu of alimony. This never happened. I didn't act on this because I was busy in therapy,, trying to change from an emotionally abused timid "mouse" Now we've both been in therapy and have a friendly relationship (he helps me out alot, I'm disabled, he does heavy work for me, paints and cleans my apartment, etc.) But he never intended to pay those bills, I can't on my disability income, he doesn't make that kind of money now, and I don't know what to do. I can't even afford a lawyer should I choose to go after him for reneging on a court order, plus, I am dependent on him for this help. Any advice?

what does it mean when your having really scary nightmares, the type where you wake in the early hours at 3am? in total shock at how scary the dream was, your lay there on your own, in the pitch darkness parylised with fear, rooted in position, your to scared to even move, and your breathing is excelerated, your struggling to catch your breath. you feel at that moment, acutely lonely and empty inside...like abandoned by the world. life, people, society, fun, laughter, human companionship all a million miles away. suddenely your one bedroom apartment has a scary, lonely feel to it. your even scared to get out of bed, make a drink, turn on a light, but no that you have to, because laying there, in the darkness, recovering from a horrific nightmare, with the acute loneliness and abandonment inside, is too much to bear.. im a 30 year old bpd sufferer, whos suffered great trauma throughout my life, im pursuing therapy right now...i live alone, never made any friends in life except a couple online. i have these nightmares alot. im trying to take one day at a time, while pursuing my goal of emigration from britain to build a new life. which is top priority for me. but meanwhile i spend every lonely night/day alone and lonely...dealing with high panic, anxiety feelings, and ive become aggrophobic. my plight right now is to get the right therapy and support has anyone else had nightmares this bad?

how can i deal with a mental health team that says they want to take things slow, and carefully? want? me to under go an assesment for psychotherapy which they say will take time, plus they said there setting up ocupational therapy to, which is another period of assesment where i won't actually be doing nothing yet. where im coming from is im tired of it, im 30 years old, have bpd and struggled mentally since 16. ive never done anything with my life, never achieved qualifications, never had friends or a girlfriend. i cant even get my psychiatrist to perscribe me any xanax for my extreme anxiety which prevents me going out. the psyche said there addictive and is reluctant to perscribe them. so im waiting around, apartment bound going through all these lengthy assesments to see if therapy is right for me. when my top ambition is to move on with my life and quickly..i want to emigrate from the uk and go back to france or further out, build a new life. so im eager to move on, i dont like britain and want to move away..but i feel kept down by 'the system' what should i do here?

What would you do if your husband cheated on you with another married marine and abandoned you and your child? I filed papers last month, but what if your marine husband cheated on you with another married marine, beat you up, is trying to take everything (money, house, car and everything else) forcing you to use credit cards so you & your child can suvive,destroyed your career(made me lose my job), your credit(got collections accounts from him & made our home go into forclosure) & abandoned you & your child for the married woman marine, who he is now going to get an apartment with, & everytime keep going to court to fight for justice, nothing is done because they look at he is in the marine corp, and his command is not doing anything about their relationship, and they are cleaning up the mess because they were suppose to have done something a long time ago and they didn’t, and he doens't care about his child, and he has another child from another woman that he doesn't care about either, and he has phyco problems but he doesn't want to go to therapy, and then get kicked out, what would you do?

Auto Accident Personal Injury Claim Help? So, I was driving home, when a girl came speeding around the corner in my apartment complex on the wrong side of the road. Long story short, it got ruled 100% her fault. Now I ended up doing 6 months of chiropractic visits and 2 months of physical therapy. I don't feel different and I am going to have permanant back and neck damage (not severe just not comfortable to be on my feet a long time, sleep, or do strenuous activities, I'm a Chef). That's not it. My wife was about 37-38 weeks pregnant, and we went to a doctors visit a couple hours after the accident. She wasn't in the car, but freaked out when she heard the accident and came out of the apartment and saw it was me. The doctor diagnosed her with preeclamsia (high stress during pregnancy) because of the accident and had to induce her that night. The drugs slowed the baby's heart rate, so they had to give a c-section. They only offered $3k to start and they say my wife doesn't matter because she wasn't in the car. suggestions? So to answer a few questions. First of all both the cars were totaled. I have soft tissue damage, and my back seems to mis-align easily. I had not had any health problems prior at all. I only went to the chiropractor that long because my insurance said to just see if it helps, even though I told them 2 months into it that it hadn't helped. I had visits 3 times a week. An IME was done, and they said to go to 10 visits of PT and if that didn't help they may have to rule it as a permanant injury. Though, to get proof, what should I do? It was ruled 100% her fault so it doesn't really matter with my policy. The medical bills were probably about $5000 total. I most likely can get a letter from my wife's OB which was also the on-call doctor, saying it was related with the accident. When we went in that day, thats when she was diagnosed, the OB actually asked what the hell happened that day. Do you think that would do the trick? Sry if I missed a question but I'll try to answer any more. Th So to answer a few questions. First of all both the cars were totaled. I have soft tissue damage, and my back seems to mis-align easily. I had not had any health problems prior at all. I only went to the chiropractor that long because my insurance said to just see if it helps, even though I told them 2 months into it that it hadn't helped. I had visits 3 times a week. An IME was done, and they said to go to 10 visits of PT and if that didn't help they may have to rule it as a permanant injury. Though, to get proof, what should I do? It was ruled 100% her fault so it doesn't really matter with my policy. The medical bills were probably about $5000 total. I most likely can get a letter from my wife's OB which was also the on-call doctor, saying it was related with the accident. When we went in that day, thats when she was diagnosed, the OB actually asked what the hell happened that day. Do you think that would do the trick? Sry if I missed a question but I'll try to answer any more.Thx It happened in Washington State

has anyone got psychological problems and are jealous and angry at people who have lives and who get their? needs met? i have psychological problems, live alone, await therapy and i get really enraged lookin at other people who appear to have a life, relashionships, friends, a job. when i have none of those, live alone in an apartment and have to endure loneliness and isolation everyday...and other people dont have to go through that, and happiness comes easy to them.....im so angry!! (clenched teeth) seeing them huge grins on myspace when i browse through the girls profiles....its not fare that i should be denied that ! im 29, i wait for therapy, have no social connections, and my life is empty and boorin and lonely, and no one gives a damn! can anyone offer a view on this? and to those who suffer mentally, does it make you angry watchin those havin a happy life?

how come when your in the grip of powerfull depressions, where you feel stuck, lonely,isolated, have? no friends.....you live alone....on welfare...you eat for one everynight....you dont own much material wealth.....you deal with BPD that youve had long term because of a tramatic life.. youre sat in your apartment at night...browsing the myspace profiles looking at all the happy faces who look like they have a nice fullfilling life... how come when your in this intense depressive state everyone appears to be getting on with their lives...going places....indulging in fullfilling lives...getting their needs met....amoungst friends, lovers, partners... except you....your trapped...and it feels like these grim circumstances will last forever until you die how come it always seems evrybodys having a happy time outthere except you? where as i fight to get through each lonely day, waiting for therapy..trying to keep focused on my long term goals of emigration to build a new life away from britain.. i tell you, ive lived this way most of my life & its truly hideous. im 30 no

Help! My roommate needs a good kick out the door and some therapy!? My lease is not up until June of 2008! My roommate is insane, she has random men over every day, most of them i fear for my safety just being around them. She leaves her used condoms all over the floor and my dog has almost eaten one. She is the biggest pig ever, i am always cleaning up after her. Every weekend she lets random people sleep in our living room while she leaves for work or has sex in her room. She gives her keys out to her guy friends to come over to the apartment and pick things up for her. They eat all my food, trash the place, use my things, have put scratches in my new 42" plasma. Nothing i say to her changes things. I need to find a way to make my landlord kick her out or transfer her to another unit. Why should i have to be the one to move? Almost everything in this apartment is mine, i can't afford to hire movers again to get all my stuff out. And I'd have to uproot my dog and my cats, whom she constantly yells at and abuses. Please help me! We have separate leases so i can't kick her out, we each rent a bedroom in a two bedroom unit. I am talking to the manager tomorrow, i hope they reason with me or let me out of my lease this is horrendous! I can't just leave, if i leave before my lease ends i have to keep paying rent even if i don't live there, my lease contract says so, i can't afford to pay to live somewhere else and my old apartment. Candy i don't appreciate your attitude i don't have a problem Guys...Moving out is NOT an option. I cannot afford to pay rent to two apartments, my lease will only let me move out if i continue to pay the remainder of my owed rent till the lease is up, which is thousands! Please stop telling me to move i wish i could For the person who said they needed more details: We were friends last year and we decided to rent a place. I left for the summer to see my family in NJ, then came back to Indiana for school. She became worlds biggest slut over the summer. She never goes to classes, works a dead end job. Each day becomes more awkward talking to her as we have nothing in common anymore. I know she uses me, but i cant just not clean the apartment, i refuse to live in a mess and will not put my dog or my cats through that either..She drinks constantly, shes only 19 and she gets high on our balcony every weekend...today was the worst fight between us i flipped on her, rightfully so i feel.

what can you do when you feel depressed, empty & alone, with goals & dreams that seem to far away & impossible to achieve or reach? im sat here in my one room apartment very upset. im 30 years old now, ive lived alone for two years now. but ive endured a very hard and traumatic life with abuse and victimization. unfortunatly i have bpd which is a very tough illness to treat so ive heard, and a long mental health history as my problems started at 16. i am waiting for therapy right now. but i sit here everyday feeling alone, depressed and unmotivated. i sit here thinking about my goals and dreams, which are, to move away from the uk, to immigrate to a hot sunny climate. turn over a new leaf, build a new life. but that seems impossible and to far away to ever accomplish, and i feel overwhelmed by it... i worry i might be doomed to remain in britain in my one bedroom apartment forever, with no hope of ever getting out. like a stuck feeling. like im incapable of changing it. i was born in the south of france, came to britain at 6. and iam native american heritage to. i really dont want to stay in britain.. but i worry that im trapped and wont be capable of getting out and building a new life.. or that ill be stopped or prevented..because i have paranoia to...feeling there are people out to get me, and that ill be prevented somehow...my psychiatrist called it a distrust of people because of what id been through. but i do desperatly want to leave britain, i dont relate to the brits or their way of life. can anyone help or advise?...im hoping for sensible, intellingence answers. thanks lesley but im not looking for pity or anyone to cry for me...thats not what this question is about regards

I want to open a studio in Vancouver for reiki, massage and other healing therapies.? Any small business help is much appreciated. Also, where should I look to settle in Vancouver (moving from Toronto). Should I get a 2 bedroom apartment? Can I even rent a studio/living space in one unit? Help!