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a friend indeed?

i had a friend who i had known for a long long time....we lost contact after he lost his job but then i searched for him and contacted him and then found out that he has been unemployed for nearly a year i used a little of my contacts to get him hired under the same organization as i work, and got my boss to give him a higher salary than he had demanded....after about 6 months of joining he stopped talking to me altogether and stopped visiting our family, i responded and did the same....although i never think this would happen but he is now enemy no.1 for me where i work and he is always trying to find out things that can hurt me.....i wish i would not be so gullible think of every fake person as a good friend and also hope that i am not so soft hearted that i should feel sorry for everyone....comments people....what do you think i should do change myself and risk getting hurt again....or stay the way i am and pray to God to give me what i deserve??? hi barefoot...thanks for the great insight, just a filler here...i did not and never did emphasize to him or to anybody how much i had to go through to get him the job, in fact i felt very happy about being of some use to someone....but you know you are right i just regret helping him now..... i dont consider him enemy no. 1 it is him who considers me as that

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1. Confront him
2. just ignore him tell the whole world(his frnds,gfs ,family etc)what he did to u & embarras hin in public
3. maybe he thought u felt sry for him and didnt like people helping him. U should talk to him u helped him now he can help u. I use to have a bad friend like that but talk to them and move on that is weried.
4. Just try and become friends if you can't stand them one bit, and they say something rude to you, just say "whatever, I dont care, I have better friends, they will support me."
5. I have had so called friends that have done similar things to me. i recommend keeping your guard up as f anyone can do the same thing again to you. judge a person by their actions and not their words. you can tell they are a real friend if they are there for you when you need them.
6. I think this friend is jealous of you and maybe instead of asuming things you should go to him and ask him why he behaves this way towards you and point out that you went out on a limb to help him find a job. You dont expect him to bow down to you for the rest of your life but all you want is to remain friends. Ask him if you have offended him and what you can do to make the situation right again. The important thing is you are still a nice guy! On the other hand - ignore him. Wheels do turn! Choose not to let it get you down. Be nice - it usually heaps coals on the heads of the very ones who are being nasty to the point where eventually they yield. Instead of making him enemy no 1, keep regarding him as a friend but with an issue. Clearly he has an issue and I think its jealousy. You sound like a nice person and liked by all, including your boss since he gave the guy a job because of his trust in you. Maybe this is whats eating the fellow.
7. It's hard when you do good and it gets thrown back in your face, I've been there plenty of times, but the Bible says alot about being a friend, loving your enemies and being willing to suffer for doing the right thing. If you are serious about the praying idea then ask God to help you use discernment with people (because sometimes its not wise to help certain people) and love when it's hard.
8. ur sounding alot liek a ned flanders kind of friend to homer. ned flanders is a good person no matter what, so u dont have to change becuase ur probably a good person already
9. I think you can never ever run away from being hurt because it is a part of your being a human being, Maybe you are thinking right now is revenge or to continue being angry with your ex-friend, but to tell you honest it is better to ask forgiveness to him even, we may say that it is his fault, for you to be released, with anger and hurting in your heart, actually the reason you are going to do that is for you to have a peace of mind, if that friend of yours did not forgave it is alright aslong as inside your heart you have give your best shot of forgiving, and forgetting what had happened to you and to your past, forgive and foget then that would be the the time to ease the pain you are right now experiencing... it is hard to forget maybe but with prayers and and love with your friend that you are realeasing. nothing at all. even though your friend has not forgiven you never mind that wouldn't be your fault, it is his. we all know how you cared your friend, and how much risk you have efforted for him, hope he may realized it. then maybe this a true test of your frienship. let us just hope and pray that you can have real good and a truest friend ever. goodluck! ;)
10. Don't change Mr. Keep doing good things and be the good person you are.Don't be abgry with the guy,talk to him still and be nice to him.It will drive him nuts because you see some people hurt us and they do that probably because they want to see you sad or whatever because deep down they are so unhappy.I think you should just be yourself and hey,I'm your true friend....don't worry OK :-)
11. This one thought came to my mind as I read your letter: are you one of those friends who never lets a person forget all that you have done? If you were constantly reminding him of everything, then it only follows that he would stop speaking to you eventually. You don't seem like the type, but I can think of no other reason a person would turn his back on someone who has done so much for him. Also, a couple of other things you said about the guy, sounded funny. 1. he was without a job for a year, doesn't sound like he was too interested in working to me. Plus, he had lost a job when you last knew him. 2. he got more money than he had demanded. he was in no position to demand anything. I think if you just rest on the sidelines as far as he is concerned, given enough rope, he will hang himself on this job too. You may really regret helping him. Good luck and next time, let sleeping dogs lie!!!!
12. What you did was right--what he did was devious. Maybe this is why he was out of work for so long. Hopefully the people that have known you all these years, will see what he is up to and stand by you. No one deserves what happened to you. You have a kind heart and I'm proud to be one of your contacts. You can be counted on to be a true friend. If you confront him, please don't do it alone. Have friends with you as witnesses. xo
13. hey,,, its terrible when u do something nice for someone,, then they repay you with crap! we all get put in similar situations, but God does know the good we do, dont let him upset you, it would be good to try to find out why hes upset and being an @hole, try and ask him, but do it in a joking way, see his reaction and i really hate being taken advantage of aswell,,, im gullable too, and get walked over all the time,, and lately ive toughened up a little and people hate that!, good luck, xxxxxxxxxxxx