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How do i deal with having a child at age 25 ? My life has been a rollercoaster already... thanks.?

My life has been a rollercoaster of emotion, from losing my first girlfriend my 9th grade year, to also losing 10+ friends over the next 4-5 years from my graduating class. Suffering from drug addiction (i sold drugs did not abuse them too much my self.. cocaine, oxycotton,alchohol,marijuana). My 20 year old girlfriend is now having a child, we both decided we did not want kids, i was to believe she was on the pill etc etc.. But im way over that.... now its to a point (she is 14 weeks in).. where we are having relationship problems (we have been, and her lying to me about having a kid etc did not help)... So she is now telling me i cant have anything to do with my kid.. and she doesnt want to ever see me unless we are dating and all that. I finally got my life on track a year and a half ago.. i work in the high tech field (no this is not a DeVry or Western career college commercial).... I have no idea how to deal with this..i just want to revert to my old life of drug abuse 24get

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1. I've learned that the biggest reason for anxiety and stress in life is - expectations. Everyone has a different life to live. No life is perfect. Yes, you have a child at 25. It has happened. Now that the shock is over, you must move on. Can she really stop you from having anything to do with your child? Well, I'm no expert. But, I suggest you go to a lawyer who can advise you of your parental rights. I am assuming you do not have an anger problem, emotional problems, substance abuse etc. -basically anything that can hinder you from being a bad parent. If not, you have a good chance of maintaining shared custody or full custody, esp. if she is usin the child as a pawn. Go see a lawyer. Youre in a financial position to do so. Do this as a precautionary measure, so if she does go through with this than you will be one step ahead. Know your rights and be there for your child. God Bless