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What can you do if there people giving a wrong portrayal about you to others,& your worried about how others?

are perceiving you? your worried people could be alienating you? ostracizing you because of how your being perceived or portrayed to them by others. what can you do? ive had bpd for a long time, and dealt with anger and rage for a long time to because a traumatic, bullying, victimised past. im doing better controling my rage now, although i still have the feelings. i used to have rage outbursts and rage attacks which iam not proud of, mostly in public where people would laugh at me, or it would cause me to be attacked. my goals and dreams are to overcome this disorder and find happiness. emigrate far from britain and build a new life, find friends, a job, security, love, acceptance a fiance. these are all the things ive never hd in life because of my disorder and trauma. however today, i live alone in an apartment, ive got no friends, im on welfare, waiting to be assesed for therapy. and i feel as though everyone has ostracized me & perceives me as a psychopath somebody not to associate with. and i feel angry, upset, confused that i might be viewed this way....or others are portraying me that way to others. i feel people are holding my troubled past against me and my characters been rubbished. am i ruined now? what could i do now?

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1. You sound bi polar to me. I know this kind of crap all to well as my wife acts much like you describe yourself. Mood stabilizers would probably help you a lot but are expensive. At the least, I think you should see a Dr, there are ways to help you to a more normal life. Past that, just live your life and stop worry so much about what others think.
2. You have to let sleeping dogs lie. If you get worried about what they're saying and try to set things right by talking about it you may only make things worse. You need to clearly define who you want to be and who you don't want to be and abide by those guidelines. Soon you will become that person and others will see it. But people will always talk. If there is nothing to talk about they'll make something up. There's no helping that. If you love yourself and you love who you are, then what others say won't matter very much.
3. Hallo, fella, now in the first place you might be sending a negative signal out to theses ignorant people, so try and not let that worry you, always fight your condition when out and around others in your company, interact, on a positive level, if you feel negative then stay out off the conversation till you have something positive to say, I know! it's not easy, but do try, now if things are said that are not to flattering about you then turn it around, and respond with, well that surprises me, your condition is shared with some of the most talented people, both in show bizz and in the public eye, and they have good and bad day's but have leaned to live with it, running away thinking the grass will be greener on the other side is not an option, it is only greener but for a short while, so my advice is to get some web site going asking for positive thinking Bipolar and same minded people to share there very good times with all, bet you are a handsome and intelligent guy. mail me any time. regards Ryan Dior
4. You should give yourself a hearty pat on the back. You recognize you've got a problem and are taking steps to overcome it. Do not worry what others think of you, it is more important what you KNOW about yourself. You are doing your best to change and lead a happier life, focus on that at present. You sound very lonely. Maybe you should get out and meet new people who don't your past. That way you are starting with a clean slate, they have no preconceived notions of you. Volunteer work is a wonderful way to meet really good people as well as build self esteem. You would find, I'm sure, that you get as much out of helping others as they get receiving help. Or you might try joining a book club in your area or some other group or organization, something that you are interested in. A pet is a great companion and their unconditional love is a godsend. If you could get a dog I'd suggest walking it in a dog park if possible. It's a great way to meet other people as you will see the same people there alot of the time. It is awful that you feel ostracized, that's got to be tough. You might try talking to people and letting them know the steps you are taking to better yourself. They may have their doubts and it is up to you, by your actions not your words, to prove yourself. It will take time but things will change when people see the changes you are implementing. I wish you the very best, hang in there. Things will get better as long as you keep putting in the effort.
5. I have read the other answers and agree in most part with them. Keep focused on your goals and dreams! They are what gets you through life and keep your spirit buoyant and alive! People will always talk about you no matter what you do (I get talked about because I walk to work and don't drive!). There will always be one pathetic loser desperate to bring you down so they can feel better about themselves... that's life! You just remember that actions speak louder than words and no matter that the words hurt you be the bigger person, the better person, and let it go... fools always fall on their faces eventually!
6. cheer up, look on the bright side,man looketh on the outside but GOD looketh on the heart.i can think of some indivduals who look as though butter wouldnt melt in their mouth,suave and sophiscited but who are extremely malicous,calculacting,and completly without an ounce of compassion for their fellow man,or humanity.,who are propelled and motivated by what the bible calls "the root of all evil"and what makes them so dangerous is their plauseability.they commit murders with their tounges,and they steal things from others which are of absoulitely no resudial value to them,(ie other peoples charracter),either by distorition,gross exaggeration, and when that fails phabrication,all because the are wanting to be" lifes winners",.that is why the bible tells us "do not let the world press you into its mould",and to Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world,for friendship with the world is enmnity with GOD.the bible talks about crucifying the flesh,and to walk in newness of life.GOD looks on your heart my friend,and he tries the reigns of the heart,percieves the thoughts of men with his eyelids.and what is the gift of GOD.....eternal LIFE.stop being the tail being wagged.be just and fear not.never do to annother what you would not like done to youself.and LOVE your neibour,that is to say "first do no harm",and NEVER render evil for evil but instead pray for those who percuite and dispitefully use you.if someone smites you on one cheek ,offer them also the other.make allowances for others,allow them the right to be wrong about you.rid your self from self seeking,and all selfish ambitions.treat with compassion those who do not understand you.de centralilize your ego that would warp and mishape natural GOD given instincts such as the desire to love and be loved that you end up repelling others and ruin any chance of finding someone special,and read the didache