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seriously what can you do if you feel your being outcasted from the world, others are influencing other?

people against you? im 30, have bpd and im very vunerable right now...i just want to overcome this disorder that ive had half my life and achieve happiness....find a loving partner...some good christian friends....i want to emigrate from britain to a hot sunny country, far away...build a new, happy life.....these are my goals. ive missed out so much in life, never had a steady partner, never made any friends, other that online, the internet....never been employed due to my problems and traumatic life....i live alone in a one bedroom apartment, cold and alone......feeling directionless , like my lifes going nowhere. im waiting to be assesed for therapy which is taking its time.....im only just getting help..the system has failed me in the past. and now..i strongly believe i have haters outthere...people who's aim it is to socially ostracize me, influence others against me..cause me to be rejected and hated & im seriously worried about this. i cant fight everyone, what can i do? i just want to be happy, find happiness, find love..overcome all this...find a happy life....emigrate, turn a new leaf....but how can i if people are against me and won't give me a chance??????? a completely irrelevant, rubbish answer infobod, what you think i want an answer like that....give other people that answer...not me, i dont want that.

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1. Time will tell. You have to proove yourself at this point. Change your ways and keep a smile on your face. I know you can do it.
2. I am serious about this .. about all you really can do regarding others actions to you is "pray".. because we can not even in prayer , pray away someone else's free agency to be or do what they chose to . IF only... i know .. been where you are.. You can for yourself contact govt. agencies for assistance. , learn patience more because with them, you'll need it.. Location change is good in one way, but understand, our "problems" don't go aways because we change addresses.. they are something within us often.. We can change our outlook and response to the problems.. to cope better. I know what frustrations you're feeling and rejection now.. been through myself. It hurts. and deeply. Try to not expect or become so driven in the things you want.. i know that is tough. and , work on a positive attitude. When one has had a difficult past others don't necessarily want to hear about it, they think, who hasn't? .. But, never will understand to the degree you have suffered or are inside now. Theres an old saying " Fake it tell you make it". I have resolved to be happy i have to at times grit my teeth, and dig deep, and see myself happy sometimes and just do it!.. it actually has helped.. I wish you all the good things of life.. try to let go of the past , and look to a positive future.. i know that isn't easy, but worth it.. You carry forward what your mind holds.. but, your heart can heal the mind..... learning to love the life ahead of you.. the past will never change.. but the future is yours to make. I have gotten a medical necessary companion animal to help me.. And, it has made a big difference having him.. A dog or cat can make a day so much more enjoyable.. You can train them to do tricks and interact and not feel so lonely. The people that you feel ostracize you, some may, others just don't understand.. My grandmother told me as a child.. "What others don't understand they fear, and what they fear, they try to destroy". Just feel sorry for them in some ways, they too are handicapped. it's ignorance and indifference. they are missing out on a new friend.. There are others out there who will appreciate you, don't just settle for a fake relationship.. to have one.. better to have a real friend that took a long time to find, and appreciate you , than a shallow gossiper.. been there too. You have to learn to first LOVE yourself, before others can love you.. You draw to you , what you project to others of you.. just a thought to think on..
3. try to chill dont fret its not going to get you anywhere say what you see not what you think and take things a bit slower not so fast you are not training to be a elite soldier this is your life and its your property breathe now and again blink now and again stop and look at your surroundings enjoy the bees in the flowers and the passing barking dog chill out practise makes perfect [almost] you are worth it you know you are dont ever forget that!
4. The people that socially ostracize you are not worth the energy of worry. I personally believe that those with a disorder actually have a gift that many do not have. I think it is a gift of seeing the world in ways that most people cannot. Not everyone is going to reject or hate you. Those that do, don't fight it. Focus your energy on those that appreciate your differences. And remember to appreciate theirs. To have good friends and a loving partner, clarify for yourself how you are willing to BE a good friend and BE a good partner. And then be one. Focus on what you want...Actively go places where this is likely to happen (i.e. a Christian church). Sometimes a hard life is given to us because figuring things out offers greater rewards.