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Why is my husband taking pictures of other women?

We have been married for 5 years, together for 9........My husband is a Wedding Disc Jockey. I have recently found that while at a few of his weddings he has taken pictures of other women...ass, boobs, feet......... Taking our son to baseball games hes taken pics of other women......While on a school trip with our son taking pics of his teacher......I found the pictures on his computer and deleted them---he got pissed and now password protected his computer and told me he loves me, he's sorry, he'd die for me etc... and to trust him. Does a password constitute trust? He told me he did nothing wrong and didnt know why I was so upsetWe have a healthy sex life we both enjoy pics, toys etc... there is not too much we havent explored together. He does enjoy movies (seemingly when Im not around) Weve made movies, taken pictures of eachother, purchased toys..............???? Because we have had such healthy sex explortations with eachother I feel very violated....am I over reacting? FYI---My Husband is a DJ not a Photographer!

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1. go talk to a sex therapist together.
2. he just likes women....thats all...but i dun think ur overreacting, if he doesnt go further other than taking pics i guess its up to u...it is weird though
3. I think the taking pictures of other women is not right. Also any man that password locks his computer is hiding something. You are married what is there to hide if you are doing nothing wrong. And a healthy relationship doesnt mean there is nothing wrong.
4. heck no your not over reacting. sounds like your sex life is great with each other. what more would he want? i think your right on track with your thinking. good luck to ya!!!!!
5. If he says nothing wrong in taking pics of other women you do same with men put them on comp and ask him to trust you. Be interesting to see how he feel about that. Oby the way don't forget to tell him that you'd die for him and he must trust you.
6. you should be asshamed of yourself you went into his computor and deleted his files.im a photgrapher to i do the same thing to get different lighting,or different camera angles.you should go to him and beg for his forgivness.i guess your very insecure.
7. I understand why you are concerned and how him looking at other women bothers you. But some men are just like that. It doesnt mean he is unhappy with you. It just means he likes to look. Men are just different this way.
8. Hoooeeee,,,,,, Made movies??? If they`re x-rated better destroy them before your kid sees them, how revolting,,,, that`s just GROSS!!! He takes pictures of other women because he has issues. These need to be resolved before he gets charged with being a stalker. Think of the child!! Imagine if he were to find all this out? You would destroy him for life.. his parents made x-rated movies , his father collects pictures of strange women.. you both need help, and shame on you both for putting your lives ahead of your son and for being so selfish.
9. The bottom line is that this bothers you. You say that everything is fine, but what? Obviously all is not well if you are upset by the things he is doing. Maybe it's not a sex issue.
10. Sounds like your husband maybe has somewhat of a voyeur fetish, he likes to look at women, whether in sexy situations or not and takes pictures to remember the moment. Since it seems like you two are very open with your sex lives, just sit down and ask him what it does for him. Don't be angry about it, it's not like he's screwing these women (hopefully not, or this would be totally different), so it's somewhat innocent (even though I wouldn't like my husband or boyfriend to go around asking if they can take personal pictures of other women)...just try to get into his head, and do so calmly so he can maybe be more open about it and why it turns him on and see if this is just maybe a fetish or something serious like he may be having affairs with these women. Some people can get just enjoyment from the act of taking such a personal picture and having it and some people actually act on this sexual excitement and you need to figure out which is it. You guys could find a whole different sexual expierence to explore (if he truly is a voyeur, maybe you two can watch two people having sex together, if you're comfortable that is, never try to do something you're not comfortable with just to please someone. It should be for both of your enjoyment)...just sit down and talk, communication is key so he doesn't have to feel like he has to sneak around and you guys can compromise on the situation if a compromise is fair because there is no excuse for someone decieving you and having an affair. Good luck.
11. Just for the record I don't agree with tordude0 at all. It's one thing to take different pictures for lighting reasons...that I can understand. However, why is he taking different pictures of women at ballgames, your child's teacher on a fieldtrip, etc. There is more to it than lighting issues here!
12. I have to say that if he were my husband I would not trust him what so ever. He obviously has a big issue that needs to be dealt with. Do you realize if someone at school noticed that you could be sued, it's almost violating someone rights. I would think about other options and leaving. I would have never deleted them because that would be evidence for a divorce. You really need to get out why you can. Your decision if it doesn't work now it never will when it comes to someone doing things behind your back. And if he's done this??? I would wonder about other things. He only says he would do anything because he's CAUGHT!!!
13. I'm not advising you to do this but, my husband did something similiar in the beginning of our marriage so I did it too--he stopped doing (the thing that annoyed me) after I did it to him. I told him he sets the example--I figure if he feels that strongly about doing it he probably doesn't mind that I do it too.