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I think a divorce would be best for me and my husband. We have two children together and he is in the army. ?

He is getting basic allowance for housing and refuses to put a roof on our head! Im only 19 and he wants me to live with his parents forever! He says if I get an apartment, he will stop giving us financial help. What can I do to make the army force him to give money to me and his two children. also im living with his parents and he is not their. He is stationed in south korea and we are not allowed over there with him. His parents absolutley drive me nuts! He doesn't want me to move out because he thinks that if I am on my own I will cheat. So he wants his parents to watch my every move. I feel helpless because I'm not working because I have to take care of our two month old baby and our two year old son. some one answer quick im dying to get more info :( look u dont understand the messed up part is that he thinks that the money for the bah is all his! he wont be home for another year and a half! i cant take that long being with my inlaws!

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1. Sweety... my ex husband was the same. He finally agreed to move out of his parents house only when i said that i will leave him... And after we moved out he was absolutely mad at me for taking him away from his family (we still visited his parents 3-5 times a week)... It got from worse to worse and one child later i ended up leaving him... You do what you feel... But from experience... your husbands family should be you nd the children, not his parents. When you guys got married he agreed to share his life with you... If he is not willing to do it, regardless of the reason... just try and think of yourself and what makes you happy...
2. You sound like a little girl pitching a hissy fit. Look, he's DEPLOYED. No, he won't be gone forever. Suck it up, stay with his parents, and put some money away. Then work out your other marriage issues when he comes home. Marriage is WORK. Marriage with a spouse in the military is GRUNT WORK.
3. I'll tell you what I believe to be true, it will at least give you some ideas.. The first is to get in touch with some in the Army, like a chaplain tell him your plight and he can probably get the ball rolling or at least tell you where to lodge your complaint. The hardest part will be finding the place to start because once it does the military will see that it is corrected or a good reason to you on why it cannot be changed. Are there any military wives that could you get started. The military is very good at seeing that their men are responsible and fathers. Just find the way to start and the military will take care of from there. DO NOT CALL HIS or anyone else above his rank that will only make trouble for your husband. Remember things change and my opinions could be way off base.Good Luck