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I want a baby but I live in low income housing. My fiance lives with me. ?

I am 26, live in low income, and I am a substitute teacher. My fiance lives with me. I want a kid so bad. We don't make much. Is there wrong with having a child now? My biological clock is ticking and I hear it ever so loudly now? Do you think I am a bad person for wanting one now?

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1. If you can both support the baby with your money then, yes, I don't see why you would be a bad person for wanting a baby. If however, you are going to have a baby and expect money from the government....then I would say you are in no position to have a child right now.
2. no if you can feed and clothe love go for it
3. You're certainly not a bad person, but it would be selfish to have a child in your current conditions. I know how you feel, I'd love to have a child right now too. But if you don't have financial stability and the money to give a child everything it needs and many of the things it wants, then it is not the time to have a child. Instead, why don't you try getting a pet? Cats are great for apartments. Good luck! Just remember to put the nonexistent child's wants and needs before your own. If you can't provide those things, then keep working until you can.
4. You're not a bad person; it's a woman's instinct to want to be a mother; that's what we're on this earth for. However, I would try to get in a better financial position first. (Unless you really aspire to be a welfare mommy) Children cost a lot of money. Just to have my baby and the 2 day stay in the hospital was $40,000. On top of that, there's subsequent Dr. visits, diapers, clothes, toys, furniture, personal care products, etc etc.
5. It would be best if you waited until you were financially better off. But, you could have a baby now and get public assistance to buy food and diapers, and struggle to try to buy food and pay for child care, and probably never be able to afford college for your child. Your kid will grow up in a poor neighborhood with a lot of exposure to drugs and kids with parents that don't care about them. I think you should wait a few years until you are better off.
6. I wouldn’t call you a bad person, but why have a child when you’re already struggling to provide for your current household? Having a child is a huge expense, and not something you should choose to do when money is that tight – especially if you’ll be relying on welfare programs to help support the child. Have a child when you’re in a better financial position.
7. No, I don't think you are a bad person for wanting a child! It is natural. You have a job, but I would seek a more permanent position.. other than that, does your fiance work? Since you are engaged, I would get married first- trust me, it takes alot of the fun out of a wedding when you are pregnant during it..lol. I have 3, iI am 26, and my husband and I did not get married right away, but I think it would have made a few things easier. Good luck!
8. if you wait until you are financially stable you will never have a baby.. there are many things that can help you out... i would attempt to get more income or maybe a bit financially stable but like i said if you want to wait until money isn't a problem then you will never have kids i say go for it.
9. My opinion would be to get married first.Does your fiance work? As long as the two of you have income coming in then I don't see it as a problem to have a baby soon. Just keep in mind that kids are very expensive so you may want to consider getting a full time job.
10. If you're not making enough money to support yourself, why would you want a baby that you can't support right now? I'd be more into supporting myself than having a child. Now if you're doing fine financially next year or in a couple of years, then go and decide if you want to have a baby. Your biological clock is not ticking away, nor will you have problems if you decide to wait in a year or two to have a kid. There are people in their 30's and 40's that have children all the time. No need to worry about that right now. And besides, you could always adopt in the future anyway. There are millions of kids in the country, assuming if you live in the United States, that don't have families or have families that don't want their biological children for one reason or another and are in dire need of a good home.
11. Absolutely not. You seem to be at the right age to be considering a child and as for your financial situation it is almost a non-issue if you are willing to take advantage of the multitude of government aid programs for low income families with a child.
12. I dont think you're a bad person. Your fiance needs to get a second job then.
13. If you want a baby and you and your fiance both approves then have one. You don't know how long it will take you to get financially stable. Believe me once you start having kids you will make sure you make ends meet and that your kids are fed..You are not a bad person it's a wonderful feeling wanting to have a baby and you'll feel even better once you have one. Good luck!