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How do I stop obsessing over someone else's life?

I went to school with this girl and she graduated a yr before me. I was not very close friends with her but we were involved in the same sports so we talked once in awhile. I didn't pay much attention to her until i found out she was pregnant to her hs sweetheart in my first yr of college. Everyone including me was curious to see her baby b/c both parents are attractive. At first I felt bad for her then I found out they got married. Then I felt bad again b/c her hubby toured in Iraq for a yr. He came back and the last 4 yrs I've been obsessing. I look the pic of her family constantly wishing I had a fam. She turned an unplanned pregnancy into a good thing. Now they're married, have a House i think b/c he's in the army), beautiful, beautiful children. She has everything I want. Meanwhile, I've been in college for 4 yrs, I'm still not sure what Im gonna do, I commuted so I didn't have the college experience, I work so I have no time for fun, and Im home w/ parents which suck but I can't move b/c no $. I stopped obsessing when I had a new boyfriend, i don't have one anymore so now its more obsessing. The only time I realize that she may not have everything is when her hubby goes to Iraq she ALWAYS moves back w/ her parents. I don't think she has a deceit job b/c both of them never went to college. So how do I stop obsessing over her life? Should I limit looking at her pic once a month, read more what??? Is this normal? Help b/c this is embarrasing.

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1. no 1st of all just throw the pictures away, that way u cant be tempted to look at it 2nd get over the fact that her life is better than yours other peoples lifes are better than hers and others might think that youre life is the best thing ever ! just thank god that you are lucky to be able to go to college cus some people dont even have that!!
2. this is not normal.. just.. get over it. no you shouldn't even be looking at her family photos. i'm sure you'll find a happy family soon enough. she may seem happy, maybe she's not. stop thinking of how great her life is and start thinking of how to make your life great. wait a little longer. good luck:)
3. No, its not embrassing. Its just that you "think"she has a better life then you, when she could be having troubles at home. Think about it.. Everyone acts. I mean, when someone new special or a friend comes over you act differently and a lil more behaved. Everyone does. Trust me. So anywayz why should yoou be thinking about her life, when you can make your even more fun? If you wanna have more fun or just enjoy life, do this: Think about careers you wanna choose, choose something fun and exciting, Go out to a expensive place with your family or just your friends. Make sure to bring a camera! Study. Getting good grades on your tests make you feel good, right? Dance to your fave song. You dance to it cuz you love it, thats y its your favorite! Need more help? Throw away the picture! There are lots of sick familys out there that are worse then you. They might look at you and say, wow i wish i was like her, the same thing you are doing to yourself. =D Hope I helped!!!!!!!
4. I think you should concentrate on the things you have. You have EDUCATION. This gives you much more options to choose from than many people have. You can concentrate on making a career. You can try earning more money so you can move out from your parents' home and start a new life. You can think about broadening the range of your interests, finding new hobbies, acquiring new skills. Go out more often, never miss an invitation for a movie, theater, dances or anything you are into. Be friendly, outgoing, helpful and kind to everyone. Find out what you were meant to be, follow your dreams, improve your job performance, be ambitious, work hard, aim always high. You will see that life can have a completely different meaning. As for finding the perfect match, making a family, these things come with time. There is no reason in envying your friend because she certainly has problems on her own. Throw away those pictures along with all thoughts about her and her family. That does not have anything to do with you. Be happy of who you are and what you have. I am sure you will get on with your life, just need to figure out what is important for you. I wish you luck.