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if you ever lived in an apartment did you ever get complaint about playing loud music , when you never did ?

i have bpd and ptsd , ive lived in a one bedroom apartment since 2005 , ive had a very hard life , and this is the safest area ive lived in compared to the dumps of situations ive been in in the past.. im 30 years old, live off disability , im waiting for group therapy and im starting my life from scratch as ive missed out on living and life big time . have a minor criminal record , no work history, been on disability all my life , never studied or got an education , never formed any relationships ever, was bullied throughout secondary school, missed out on all my schooling. i own nothing except an old dusty computer, i have no savings - i still have problems with aggression , anxiety , panic , low self esteem , paranoia. i have alot to work through, ive aged for 30 and look older than i once did. my biggest goal is to leave england move away with a decent paid job, and thats what im trying to work towards. months ago i had a troublesome drunken neighbour who used to try and open my apartment with his key , i made a complaint and it was resolved fortunatly. however he mentioned to the housing manager about me saying '' i could complain about his - ( my ) loud music '' - which i dont believe is to loud. before i spoke to the housing manager about another query and she mentioned what the drunken neighbour had said weeks ago about how he could ' complain about my loud music ' i assured her i didnt have it loud and have never really had any real complaints regarding my music or noise. but she did say just to be ' considerate ' of my music being to loud because the apartment block walls are thin. she said theres no official complaint or that im not in any trouble but just to be considerate. however her saying that made me feel worried and ' insecure ' - how do i handle it ? it made me think of the worst possible thought of being thrown out, that would be the last thing i need.

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1. No, I was warned by my neighbor as I was moving in not to play music loud. Then she tried to hit on me, but I didn't want her. She took me to NAMI, and talked to my mom some when I was going through a bad time though. I don't like loud music.
2. Use headphones to listen to your music....apartments have very thin walls and even though you are playing it low...some people would prefer not to hear it at all!!!
3. Get head phones. you'll always find that one neighbor thats miserable and just wants to do make you that too. Keep yourself together on this one.
4. Hi, I'm Craig. My life was crap from the age of 23-28-ish, I'm now 31. I was a alcoholic and cocaine addict until I went into detox. All this because I sufffered with depression from the age of 15 due to a chemical imbalance. I joined a gym and train most days and I'm now training to be a personal trainer so I can help people like me and you. First of all put the worries in writing to your housing officer- email is good so you have a copy and stay away from the the other tenant as much as poss. I lived next door to a kid who was loud but a decent lad so I occasionally knocked about with him. This got be in trouble and I eventually was forced out, it wasn't a bad thing though I was drinking all the time. You're handling this already by talking about it, but don't lose your head.
5. I wouldn't worry about it as they need proof that you are playing loud music. Unless he video tapes the loud music you are playing then nothing can be done. :) Hope it gets better.
6. As suggested, do the headphone thing. For someone who worries that he has had little education, your command of English is remarkably good. Would that many contributors were as able at expressing themselves. While you are waiting for your therapy, have you thought of documenting your life experiences as a novel or Autobiography? It made a lot of money for "One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest" and from the brief mention of how your life has been would be good subject matter since you are so literate.
7. Chill. Get some headphones if you're getting overly worried. You don't write like an uneducated person. Actually better than many on here. Why are you so keen to leave England? The grass is always greener syndrome or what? No disrespect but curious. Next time you see the guy who made the noise complaint look at him and fart. P.S., hang in there. You sound like a cool person.
8. I had a similar problem with an old neighbour. I complained to the landlord that she had her tv on most of the night and she said i was playing loud music. I could not sleep due to the noise from the tv and i had to get up for work. I tried talking to her but she ignored me. When she told the landlord about my 'loud' music he came over and i was at work. He waited for me to come back and soon realised that it was not me playing the music it was a house across the road. My advice is do not worry about it. Invest in a pair of good quality headphones then he cannot complain. Just a thought if your neighbour is a drunk he is obviously lying cos drunks do not tell the truth. Good luck and i hope this helps.
9. It Happened to me,i welcomed the environmental health team in,so as to Be one step ahead-result not enough decibels,was coming from another source. 1:Don't make it personal,even if complainant is. 2:Chill 3:you'll laugh at all this in a year or less
10. Id say if that was the case then tell the neighbours to record when you did play this loud music its the only logical answer.