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I'm so sick of other Army wives?

I'm wondering if any other Army wives out there have experienced this? I'm 23 years old and have been married to my husband for a little over 5 years. He is in the army (and no, I did not marry him because he was in the Army we have known each other since we were 15) Well, from the very beginning I got attitude from many wives because I am in shape and pretty. I learned that from talking to my husband because other wives in the company would tell their husband that "no" we were not invited to their parties because i'm a man stealer. I guess being pretty means I'm going after their husbands, lol go figure. I'm a very friendly person and I get along great with my husbands work buddies (with my husband by my side, never alone with any). Now just recently many of the wives have been spreading rumors about me saying that I'm a stripper, which absolutely not true! I don't understand why these wives are being so immature and mean. Some of their husbands who stop by our house after work say its because their wives are very self conscious about their weight and looks that they get mad when they see me, but that is just so juvenile! I love my husband and would never try to take their husbands from them lol So yeah, I take care of myself and look pretty so what, why all the hate from the wives and not the husbands? Thank You to all who helped. I think I will be talking to my husband about moving off the base. That seems like the best solution. I'm just going to continue with getting my degree and ignore these immature women. :)

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It's not just the army... That shit is everywhere.
wow. that sucks. just ignore them. as long as you are keeping distant enough from their husbands you will be okay
Jealiousy sweetheart...just something you have to put up with by being in the Army and being Pretty....good for you, don't let them get to you!
the other wives are insecure!
K......
Stop being so friendly with their husbands and watch what happens.
This behavior isn't just with military wives. Many wives who are insecure about themselves will lash out at women they feel threatened by. It's not that you do anything to make them feel that way, it's more that because you are pretty and content with yourself (and they may not be) they may believe they have to compete with you. This is born out of their own insecurity. You probably also have found that these same women will use their husband's rank as though they earned the rank themselves. Honestly, you don't want to befriend someone like this. There are wives out there who don't engage in this catty behavior, and they are the ones you want to seek out for friendship and support. Good luck!
the husbands don't see the problem at all and they are right, their wives are just very insecure and they know that you are not i know its so old school and sounds like im ur mother but, they hate you because they are jealous of you have you tried talking to them about it? if not, try it, explain to them how you feel about this and offer to exercise with them, or help them with their appearance if they feel that bad make them feel good about themselves, and i know it may be hard especially if they are so mean to you. but you can't fight fire with fire :)
They are feeling threatened because you are younger and prettier than they are. Try to make friends off the Army Campus, get a part time temporary job so you don't have so much contact with them. You will probably move on soon and may not see all of them again. Try to remain calm and smiling. This will pass.
I too have had very bad experiences with other army wives. Sometimes their behavior borders on incomprehensible. So, I just disassociate myself from them. The only times we ever live on post is if we are overseas and we have to. Other that that, we stay away. So sorry you have had to go through this, but you aren't the only one. I hope you are able to find one or two quality friends where you are.
My husband's recruiter told me to watch out for wives like you described and has told me more than once not to turn into one. She says that they are that was just because they are so insecure in their marriages. Just because you are beautiful doesn't mean you are going to try to steal their men, sounds like you are really happy with your husband. Just don't turn into a jealous woman anytime your husband works with women. Cuz there are women in the Army and the Navy (my husband is Navy) and every other branch of the military and there is always going to be someone thinking you are trying to steal her husband because she thinks you are prettier than her. It sucks, but you have to deal with it. We happy wives have to stick together and stay positive for our men. screw the b*tches
Women are mean in general and worse if the are Military spouses. They are brought together because of the Military, not a reason you would normally pick a friend. Often they have nothing in common so they have to find something, and it happens to be you. I don't know if you go to church or have other hobbies but seek your friends in a way you would normally seek out friends. Stay away form family support groups and find REAL friends. Move off post if you live on post. I am an Army Civilian but while I was in I never was a Social Soldier, didn't go to others parties or family support groups, none of that. We have friends, some happen to be or have been Military but there were friends not people I was forced or felt I SHOULD socialize with.
They are just jealous. I am an army wife, and to be honest I dont really talk to many of the wives. They seemed unfriendly. I just hung out with my husband and his battle buddies. We'd have little get togethers and drink and hang out. But I have always gotten along better with men more then women. I get treated the same way by women, I don't know why.
They only hate you cause they ain't you!
I am not jealous of you. I got a smoking body myself, but I don't have military wives hating me for it. Maybe you are doing something to cause this? Cause I have no woman EVER call me a man stealer.......... Most wives I have met have been nice/sweet and I get along with them. There are some bad ones in the bunch, yet I avoid them.
That is what happens when all the other Wife's are 250# Sweat Hogs...and immature with no education...LOL What some Young Military person will marry to get laid and think that they will get a lot more money....LMAO Besides most of them probably never had it so good being married to a Military Man... My wife and my buddies Wife had the same problem back in 1960's... You have to understand that in Civilian life you would never hang out or even know wives like there are in the service...
They are just insecure...... plain and simple. Don't worry about them just be good to your man. Maybe they think you flirt with their husbands or something, idk.