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I'm so sick of Army Wives?

I'm wondering if any other Army wives out there have experienced this? I'm 23 years old and have been married to my husband for a little over 5 years. He is in the army (and no, I did not marry him because he was in the Army we have known each other since we were 15) Well, from the very beginning I got attitude from many wives because I am in shape and pretty. I learned that from talking to my husband because other wives in the company would tell their husband that "no" we were not invited to their parties because i'm a man stealer. I guess being pretty means I'm going after their husbands, lol go figure. I'm a very friendly person and I get along great with my husbands work buddies (with my husband by my side, never alone with any). Now just recently many of the wives have been spreading rumors about me saying that I'm a stripper, which absolutely not true! I don't understand why these wives are being so immature and mean. Some of their husbands who stop by our house after work say its because their wives are very self conscious about their weight and looks that they get mad when they see me, but that is just so juvenile! I love my husband and would never try to take their husbands from them lol So yeah, I take care of myself and look pretty so what, why all the hate from the wives and not the husbands? Thank You to all who helped. I think I will be talking to my husband about moving off the base. That seems like the best solution. I'm just going to continue with getting my degree and ignore these immature women. :)

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Jealously
They are jealous of you. Be proud that you look good.
Most (not all) army wives tend to be a little uptight....just like most (not all) of the men who leave the service with their heads up their a$$. Dont get me wrong, they have done a lot for our country and I have great respect for them on that level but some of them think that everyone owes them everything!
They are hatin' cuz they're jealous!
bi***es!!
They are jealous. That is so sad that people are jealous so they make your life awful. Just ignore them and be yourself. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You take care of yourself and kudos to you!
They're just jealous & immature. Ignore them. Just to let you know they are not all like that.
Ummmm......jealousy?? Simple really. Invite one or two over for lunch and get to know them. They will probably come just out of curiosity. Then tell them a little about yourself and such. Ask them if they want to join you for walks, runs, the gym, whatever. See what happens.
Sounds like Highschool- gee. Are they older and maybe don't have anything in common with you? Has your Husband been saying anything? Maybe the men have been talking about how pretty and trim you are arund their wives and in turn they are gettng jealous. There may be many reasons why and one with them being immature and insecure about themselves. Only women that are unhappy with themselves and not secure would say anything like that.
Definitely jealously, because you're pretty and the other wives are probably fat and ulgy. Nonetheless, that's pretty lame of them to spread rumors around about you, not to mention damaging to your self-esteem. Keep your chin up, and be a class act. Don't let them victimize you. You're way better than them. And people will start to realize that.
You are right. The way they are acting is very juvenile. But you know how catty us women can be. Do not let other people's jealousy and insecurity issues become your problem to deal with. It is unfair to you. Just be glad that you look good and have more self confidence. You don't need friends like that anyway.
I feel you. This is why my husband and I absolutely DO NOT live on base. You're basically living under a microscope, and it's not a good environment at all. I've had some Army wives spread some gossip about me as well. It's basically a rite of passage. I've had women jealous because of the way I look, because of my education level, heck Army wives have even gotten mad at me over the type of dog I have (I have a wiener dog... apparently that makes me a slut! Haha!). Anyway, even though there are some catty Army wives, there are also some genuine ones. Choose your friends wisely. But moving off base is 100% for the best, I assure you. You get out from under the microscope, you can get some non military friends, and at the same time you can keep your friendships with the decent Army wives. As for your situation, it most likely just stems from them being jealous of you and them being bored and liking to spread catty rumors. Don't let it get to you too much. Be gracious and just keep your head up. Trying to argue with them, defend yourself to them, or creating a fuss over it just does what they want, make you look bad. Just ignore it, and move off base. Tree Blower- In your dreams! Not all Army wives cheat on their husbands. And by the way it's spelled IRAQ not Irak. Geez.
They think you act and dress slutty. Anyway Army wives always cheat when their hubbies are overseas. So let'em talk. Ask my MILF neighboor... while her husband was on Irak fighting for our freedom, she was calling me over to get " something fixed" or to "help her lift something heavy" if u you know what i mean. Now that he's back I just wave my hand to say to him whenever I see him. ... He is a good guy... I never understand why women cheat on guys who are not jerks and are good partners. I'm a jerk and my wife never cheats on me....well .... to me understanding.
Don't worry. Every year you get another year older and another crop of young women will come up behind you. So then there will be other women to hate. Not you anymore. That is TRUTH. See, You can never win!
It's not so much jealousy as it is insecurity. You are already in a situation that is insecure in nature simply because being in the military means your life can change any moment when you get word you'll be relocating. Women like being able to 'plant roots' - establish home. But they 'signed on' to a lifestyle that, at times, means they will be uprooted. So...focus on your strengths and how you can make the other wives feel good about themselves - instead of threatened and insecure about you because you really do need each other! Check out our own military wife and what she has to say in "Red, White and Blonde" - sounds fun, huh? http://www.shejustgotmarried.com/modules/blog/post.php?entryid=233
Obviously they are hatters and the men are wishin they were commin home to you.. you pose a threat to them with being pretty and in shape thats not ur prob its thiers and they are the ones who need to keep thier husbasnds in check as long as ur not giving off signals and being overly nice then you can sleep with a clear consince.. i to was with a man 4 a long time in the army the women can be very caddy some like to play games its the women who are not into games that the men want...at least you will know who is your friend and who is not
Yeah, there are wives like that--a lot of them. This is the #1 reason that my family lives as civilians as much as possible. Sure, we do the Company BBQs and that kind of stuff, but we are actual friends with VERY few of the people my husband works with. Perhaps one or two every other duty station so yeah not many. I shop at a grocery store, go to Target, and try really hard to not go on post. I have found that life is much better this way. It took awhile to figure this out, and when we have to live on post, because it does happen, I do NOT make friends with ANY of the wives that my husband works with. That is just a freaking powder keg. In the past, I have had wives accuse me of having my boobs done (like it matters but I haven't), I have been accused of cheating on my husband while he was deployed--my single brother was in town, I have been accused of helping other women cheat on their husbands--you name it. Take it with a grain of salt, and don't let their jealous vicious lies get to you. They honestly have nothing better to do. I feel sorry for them. It gets worse as your husband goes up in rank, also. For some reason, a PFC's wife is not as much fun to gossip about as a SFC's or MSG's wife. Good luck anyway, being the wife is very possibly more dangerous than your husband's job, LOL!
Wow, I have the same problem. No matter how nice I am to other women in my extended family, in-laws, etc. We never get invited to barbeques or outings. There's one real ugly one who dresses like a sl** and will never invite me even if everyone else is going! I am just in shock that their husbands actually admitted that to you and you found out the truth. They also spread a rumor that I was a drunkard, sorry I don't get drunk on one or two beers. Anyway, you're not the only one, feel good about yourself. They are just player haters and they are everywhere.
girls are jealous of other girls. dont matter who they are or what there husbands do for a living. your not the only wife out there thats hot so im sure they act like that with others, maybe you should all start a support group lol.
Didn't you go to high school? Guys like pretty girls, girls don't. You are no exception to the rule.