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I can't stop hating my dad?

My dad does not deserve my love. He left my mom when she was pregnant from me, but later he got back with her. They're living together.He has lots of money (2 completely paid houses that each are worth more than $120,000) and also a third house in a foreign country and he doesn't buy me clothes so i have only 3 pairs of jeans. I live in poverty while he is wealthy, will i live in his house because im 16 but i barely have old clothes. I hate him so much. My sister is going to college and he didn't even help her with nothing and he made her life miserable telling her that she is worthless and he said he disowned her. He makes my life miserable he doesn't hurt me physically but emotionally. He is always complaining how he spent money on me when i was a baby. All my clothes i have are from the salvation army. My mom works but she is those type of submissive women that lets him get all her checks because he is planning to buy more property. He says that the reason why he is not going to spend money on us is because if he doesn't save for himself he is afraid that when we were adults and he was an older man we would put him in a nursing home. he is selfish and he has told us in our own faces. i don't want to hate him cuz i know is wrong but i have those feelings. i am pretty sure that if he died i wouldn't evev cry for him. i want to stop hating him because i know is wrong the thing is that i treat him nicely but i can't take any longer and i talk back to i tell him the truth and he gets furious and he is only threatening to beat me up.

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1. unfortunately your father is a jerk, maybe you can get a part-time job so you can afford some nice clothes. Talk to your mom to see if she can't speak up at least for you to be properly dressed. Otherwise try talking to a counselor at school or a close relative, aunt or uncle, grandparents?
2. You are right, he doesn't deserve your love. He is a pathetic excuse for an adult and parent. Your mom enables him by playing along. Sorry about your situation, you have selfish parents that only care about themselves. You need to just take care of yourself and some day get out of there.
3. I know it's hard but you just have to let it go. Hate is such a draining emotion, it takes so much energy and is such a waste. Try to channel that energy into something positive, become a better person, help your mom. Money is not everything - you've got shelter and clothing which is better than some people have. If your dad does not bring anything positive into your life, exclude him from it as much as you can. Don't let him poison you or your future.
4. As he is ur parent, it is his JOB to provide you with those neccessities. He shouldnt be so immature and childish about it. You should get a job. Have a heart-to-heart convo with him. It is wrong what he is doing.
5. don't let this hate destroy you because it will turn you into a bitter person. the remedy for this is to treat your dad with kindness. basically he is an insecured person who needs affection thus his attitude. you have a good heart,so let it guide you. be patient and pray always.