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is my army boy cheating?

My boy and I have been "together" not dating even though everyone just says we are for 5 months 3 have been at basic and now some other training and school in va. But we have been friends for years. When he first left in June I was very upset and he is a known player my dad and sisters warn me about him constantly ( I'm 19 and not living at home so it just annoying phone calls btw he is 21) but when he first left he called me almost 1 every other week ... That's a lot for basic and wrote me tons of letters it was great. He graduated from basic and came home for one day ... We chilled but it wasn't the same and I had my period ... Now all my friends are showing me things on his facebook from a girl he had a thing with saying I love you and miss you and I'm not sure all my friends are telling me he is cheating and I should end it with him and stop waiting for him but I really like him and he promised he was going to be good before he left.... But he only texts me a little every night and he is always going to bed and tired ... That's understandable he is in the army but to not make 5 mins to call your girl? I don't know any opinions or thoughts? I'm very confused we planned on moving in together in dec... i dont know we talked about things in the future although ... telling other another girl(the same one as on his facebook) that you were crying when you left her house... right before spending the night before leaving for basic with me i don know i never even thought he would cheat but it seems like he might be thanks for any help of advice! we are together.... as in a couple. and ya he WAS a known player .... and the only reason my dad warned me was because my sister dated is half brother and he recently broke it off they were on horrible terms and now she is bad mouthing the whole family ... he is calling tonight should i talk to him about it or let it go until he comes home next weekend

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SWEETY Army = cheater!!!
ALL guys in the military cheat. On girlfriends, wives, whatever. Myself and everyone in my unit did, everywhere I was stationed.
if you're not together WHY ARE YOU STRESSING. get over it.
I was in the Army and a lot of the guys cheated. (not with me, but I saw it a lot) You can see the signs, trust your instincts. He's probably cheating.
I'm not sure that he is cheating from this... but it is obvious he is moving on. If I were you, I'd break things off, and search for someone else.
sorry, he is cheating on you.... either with another girl or another boy he met a basic training.
If you aren't even dating then whether he is seeing someone is really none of your business. You're not "his girl" if you're not even dating. You're just someone he hangs out with (a friend) when he is home. So he has the right to date if he wants to.
ok before you make any assumptions you have 2 options. 1. i thought my bf was cheating cuz he had a facebook n had a "fling" w/ sum girl supposedly so i decided to make a fake facebook. then i added my bf and the girl. and i sent her messages saying "soo are u and "bf's name" going out? cuz i really like him" then get the real deal. if she says she is with him them i would immediatley confront ur bf. 2. just ask him. tell him ppl r telling you stuff and u dont know what to belive. make sure he knows that u arent accusing him of anything but are just curious and want to know the truth. good luck girl. i wish you the best
He's cheating
Honestly, sounds like he has another girl. I wonder something -- he puts all this stuff on his Facebook -- that's not too private, kwim? He surely knows you see this, right? Are you really a couple? I was a little confused as to your status. You need to talk to him and level with him about what's going on. It seems like he thinks you two are much less "together" than you do. If he's coming home in a week, I'd just stall tonight and wait and talk to him face-to-face. Phone is OK, but if you are looking him in the eye, you should be able to read him better, know if he is sincere or not. I always prefer to talk face to face if possible.
I dated a Marine, and we had a similar situation to yours. At first he was calling me every night, and then it came to me having to wait around for his calls, not knowing when he'd call. I found out he was talking to other girls (on facebook). Things with him and I ended. But everyone's different so I'm not saying he's guilty, but it sounds similar to what I went through. Just be careful.
Sorry but I think so. I have been through this many times! Just break it off!
Here's some advice to you my dear: 1. ARMY MEN CHEAT; ITS A GIVEN FACT 2. HE DOESN'T CALL YOU EXCEPT EVERY OTHER WEEK 3. HE HARDLY TEXTS YOU 4. YOU HAVEN'T BEEN WITH HIM LONG ENOUGH 5. YOUR OWN FATHER WARNED YOU 6. YOU ALREADY HAVE PROOF OF WHAT ANOTHER GIRL SAYS TO HIM WHICH HE DOESN'T EVEN DELETE IT. 7. YOUR NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM SO WHATS THE POINT IN LIVING WITH HIM 8. HE'S IN THE ARMY; HE'LL BE GOING TO DIFFERENT AREAS FOR WHAT EVER HE'S GOING FOR 9. HE WANTS YOU TO HEAR WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR I'd say get over him and find yourself a man who is willing to be there for you and wants you because this guy your talking to isn't worth a crap...........I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE IN THE ARMY AND YES THEY DO CHEAT.......
Not everyone in the army cheats, but it sounds like your soldier might be. Try to find out more before making any rash decisions.
Plain and simple? He's playing around. You said he's a known player? His actions and his style are all pointing to playing around. Cheating. Running around. Playing the field. I think he's keeping you as a back-up, if something else doesn't work out. And he's discussing moving in and future, because THAT will keep you right there as his back-up falling for false hopes and dreams.
You two don't even sound like you're a couple, so why are you concerned with this? And as for this guy, if you don't realize he's cheating on you, then you sound like you don't know the signs of cheating, which is okay, because maybe you're too young or inexperienced, to know. But he sounds like he's taking advantage of you being naive, and your naivete is working to his advantage. He probably wouldn't do this, to a girl who had been around the block a few times, because she would've kicked him in the nuts and to the curb, by now.