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I have no peace of mind :(?

I have absolutely no peace of mind :(. Iam a CS graduate working in a software office.Iam earning a good salary,my parents are good as well as friends but I always liked to be more quiet than social get togethers. I loved a girl madly few yrs ago when I was teenager but fate seperated us.Her father didn't approve and took her away to a different province in the country.She really loves me but she can't go against her parents,she broke up b4 leaving which made me angry until I realized from one of her friends that she indeed still loves me & always cried for we can't be together. Ever since,Iam living a life just for others.I studied well & got a good job as my parents wished but am not at all happy with any of it though they are.My mind always thinking about her,I have no peace of mind.I get stressed out of my job most of the time.My parents don't know anything & they are worried of my behavior :(. Iam ready to sacrifice(even job) go in search of finding her bcoz I can't forget her and it's killing me from inside. I wonder why Iam living such a life :(. What should I do?.

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1. It's easy to get stuck in life. It's more of a problem that the life you happened to get stuck in is one that others seemed to have chosen for you. Everybody has priorities in their own life even if they don't take the time to list them. If your highest priority was to spend time with someone you cared about then it'd make sense you'd rather give up your lesser priorities for something you'd rather have. It takes a lot of effort to change the course of your life though so if you were planning on going for a change it's probably going to take time and motivation. You should never consider your life as set in one place, you can always change something for the better. It's all a quest for happiness anyway. Hope everything turns out alright.
2. Ok....I'm a hopeless romantic. Keep that in mind as I answer your question. If you really, I mean REALLY think she is the one, you have to go. You should find her before its too late. But you have to think this over carefully, because you truly could be losing your job and stuff. After you've figured all of that out I think you should go for it. If she's the first thing you think of when you wake up, and the last thing you think of when you fall asleep, THATS love. And you never want to have regrets when it comes to life, love especially. If you don't go after her, your probably going to be looking back the rest of your life wondering, "What if?"
3. As stated times a many, this social ideal of getting a job, being well paid and owning things never seem to make people happy, although people do appeal to it as though it were a solution for their future grievance... Everyone seems to always smile for you when you agree with their convictions - they think this will make you happy. But, in the end, it might not. It is one of the reasons among which I have to never support obedience as a valuable asset: it makes people becoming convince and conviction, being a comforting thought, they stop searching and questioning when they should. Necessity, we say, is the mother of invention and, I think, that you just found out the problem in the picture people gave you... However, keep in mind that if you can always try, success is not up to you. If you decide to risk your current state for love, do it, but beware that it is a risk; if you decide to stay, understand that you may never find peace again... both are risks.
4. You are missing one thing in your life, and it's a good thing you asked me this, because I have the answer... You shall learn to play the electric guitar. It's a great hobby, fulfills your inner needs, provides an outlet for your creative side, and it's funner than barrel full of monkeys. Start writing lyrics about lost or unrequited loves, or about the hollow feeling you're experiencing, or whatever. It will also make you more popular, and you'll make new friends. ((Gong))