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What should I do to attain some peace:(.?

have absolutely no peace of mind :(. Iam a CS graduate working in a software office.Iam earning a good salary,my parents are good as well as friends but I always liked to be more quiet than social get togethers. I loved a girl madly few yrs ago when I was teenager but fate seperated us.Her father didn't approve and took her away to a different province in the country.She really loves me but she can't go against her parents,she broke up b4 leaving which made me angry until I realized from one of her friends that she indeed still loves me & always cried for we can't be together. Ever since,Iam living a life just for others.I studied well & got a good job as my parents wished but am not at all happy with any of it though they are.My mind always thinking about her,I have no peace of mind.I get stressed out of my job most of the time.My parents don't know anything & they are worried of my behavior :(. Don't know if it's wrong but am ready to sacrifice(even job) go in search of finding her bcoz I can't forget her and it's killing me from inside. I wonder why Iam living such a life :(. What should I do?.

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1. Meditate, draw while listening to soothing music, spend time in nature, etc. You'll find peace within yourself :)
2. Think about it all...without any emotions first, if you can. Let me explain. You have a good job, does she? Having or starting a family means spenditures, you will need money to make a family work and have more once babies begin to arrive. Kids are expensive. What does she do? Is she a professional? You need to know this, I believe, so you can do what I'm about to suggest to you... Little brother, whatever you believe about this life is ok....I don't know if you think there's only one live to live or that there will be a kingdom of heaven waiting for you once you die, etc, etc....I don't know these things about you but I will tell you what I know due to all the things that I've seen... Life is so short, so unappreciated that we waste it. Finding a person, THE person, who you know you can be so G0d damn happy that YOU KNOW you couldn't possible find her anywhere else is the greatest gift of them all. Next to this person, all other ones that you find don't compare...you would feel almost alone, not complete if you don't find this one person. You found yours....it seems. If you are sure of this then, what are you waiting for? Use that talented brain of yours and get to it. Her parents will die one day....by that time she probably will be married with kids with a man that she didn't completely love because she knows what love can be with you... It's a horrible feeling to see the one you know you could have loved so much....in the arms of another man, with kids and you know that she's not happy ....but you can't be with her. You lost your chance. Think of something, get a plan going and go get her. Good luck
3. I wonder if you contacted her and told her you still love her. Since you have a great job I wonder if she would go against her parents. I think it would mean a lot to her to know you still love her and still want her. If she won't marry you, then you need to talk to a therapist so you can put this pain behind you and date someone new. I am sorry, it isn't fair what her parents are doing.